I am twenty and my boyfriend is twenty four and today we decided to break the news that we are pregnant to his parents. I am just scared of their reactions...He thinks it's gonna be negative which scares the hell of it....so i guess my question is how should we break it to them and would anyone know what to expect? We live together so in no way do we depend on his parents for anything.
2006-10-08 02:36:14 · 18 answers · asked by sierra 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think his parents will probaly be happy cause most older people love grandchildren thats if they aren't the old ppl who think they are still 20 So i think his parents will be really happy and probaly have names in mind for the baby
2006-10-08 02:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by mz.j 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you've only been 'talking' how did she get pregnant with your child? You've either been doing way more than just talking, or it's not your baby! Seriously though you have more important things to think about than how your parents will feel. How do you and your girlfriend feel about it? Some questions for you, are you still living at home? How old are you both? Can you support a family? Do you and your girlfriend want the baby? You have plenty of time to work out what and how to tell your parents. Before you tell them you have a lot of things to get straight first. One of the most important things (IMO)is to decide whether you will be keeping the baby. Once you know that you need to work out how you and your gf will support the baby/terminate the pregnancy. I wish you both (or all 3 of you) the very best of luck. I hope that your parents are supportive as it will be far easier to have them on side but don't worry about them now, worry about your gf and your responsibilities.
2016-03-28 01:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys already live together which means they shouldn't be mad because you guys are independant on your own as a couple. When you break the news seem very (very) happy so they can see that u guys are ready for this and something you both wanted. If you break the news to them the opposite way thats going to give them a chance to talk **** . Remember break the news in a very happy happy happy mood no matter how you both feel about the situation. Good Luck and Congrats!!!
2006-10-08 03:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by amethyst3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could break the ice in a funny way. Buy a t-shirt for each of them that says "world's greatest grandfather/mother," wrap them up and give them to them. Then, when they open the presents, smile and tell them the good news.
At the same time, be prepared for a negative reaction, and be prepared to move on from that.
I had my first baby at 20 and my partner was 22. Everyone was freaked at the time and we got no support from either of our parents. 23 years later, we're still together and our two (now adult) children turned out just great.
You and your boyfriend are a team and you're about to embark on a very important parenting project. Stick together, believe in yourselves and accept help from the people who are willing to offer it. You will prove the doubters wrong!
2006-10-08 02:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well they might be upset at first but they will get over it after a while. If they are good parents they will be so happy about it and will ask u what do u need and judt stuff like that cause they really care but if they are not that great of parents they will just leave u alone and want nothing to do with u but all u can do u is just pray and hope it gets better!
2006-10-08 02:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by brownsugacookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I told his parents by taking an ultrasound picture and sitting them on the couch. We told them we had a new name for them and handed them the picture and said it was grandma and grandpa. They were speechless. I think actually having a picture to show them made it real that yes we had a real live baby on the way. How could they be mad when they were physically looking at their first grandchild? Good luck to you, and no matter how it goes, nothing will melt a heart like holding their grandchild for the first time. The negativity is truly only for a short duration. Congratulations to you and your boyfriend :)
2006-10-08 02:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by justwondering 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am gonna tell you how my first pregnancy was. I was on birth control living with my boyfriend and his parents come to find out I was pregnant. My boyfriend said that he was going to tell them. He thought it was his job. So I stayed in the bedroom. My boyfriend brought down the slip saying I was pregnant and handed it to his mother. She asked how did this happen and he said we were not sure because we were on birth control. She was worried of course cause we lived with them. I thought that our whole world was going to shatter. You also have one up on us you don't live with either of the parents. They were upset, but we assured them when the baby came along we were gonna look for a house to buy or rent. THEY were not ready to be grandparents, but it was too late they really didn't have a choice. It took them like a month and then they started acting like everything was ok and now they are like the best grandparents in the world they love their grandchild and now I am due any day now with their second. After my first was born we were out of their house within four months. Living on our own. When we told them about this second child the reactioin was nothing like the first. I think when we told them about our first they thought they were too young to be grandparents, but they even said they wouldn't trade him in for nothing in the entire world and now they are waiting for the call on the second child being born!!!! Everything will work out. Maybe it don't seem like it will at first, but eventually they will get more excited than you are.
2006-10-08 02:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serve them a cake with Grandma and Grandpa written on it in icing. Act as though it is the most wonderful news ever given, news that you want more than anything to share with them.
Ultimately you are not responsible for how they take the news you give. If they get upset and make a scene then simply say "we had hoped that you would be happy for us, as happy as we feel for ourselves."
Whatever their reactions end up being, congratulations.
2006-10-08 02:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know , how you feal , I was in the same situation .
I did't know , what to do !
My friend told me , go get a pair of babyshoes , wrap them up , and give it to my parents in law .
I also put a picture from are unborn baby in a card . and gave it to them .
I tell you , it was easyer , than i thought it would be .
I still don't have a really good relation ship with my in laws , but ther love ther Grand baby , and that is all what counts .
I wish you Luck , and remember , it is your life , not somebody eles.
2006-10-08 02:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by barbara w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't something you can keep a secret, and there's no way to soften the blow, so just tell them. He should actually do it, since they're his parents. Of course, they'll probably want you to get married. Would that be a problem for you two?
2006-10-08 02:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋