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Question

i been talking to this guy on the internet for a while and i just seperated from my husband he finally told me he loved me and started calling me but i am worried about what everyone has yold me so help

my husband walked out 3 weeks ago for anthore whore and this guy was there to help me i just want to know if i should follow my heart

Answer 1

You have to be extremely careful about people you meet on the net.
Its nothing like meeting someone for the first time face to face.
On the net people can be who they want to be or say what they want & you have to take it as the truth.
NEVER arrange to meet unless you are in a very public place & ALWAYS tell @ least a couple of you best friends what you intend to do & were you are going.
Get them to call you or text you for a progress report.
As for your husband if you had him back there is too much history now that you,d bring it up during every fight that you have & the constant pressure would bring another split.

Answer 2

If this guy told you that he loved you and he has never seen you or been with you.Then you have a problem.Use your common sence.Plus have you ever seen him or has he seen you. I have went out with 2 guys from the internet but I had been talking with them for way over a year and neither of them told me they loved me. It's just not possible to be really in love with someone you have never interacted with. So something isn't right. Plus I met both guys at a public place and they didn't have my address until I felt it was safe enough to give them.One of the guys never knew where I lived. So you really need to be careful.Good luck I would hate to see anything happen to you so if you would like to talk more on the subject then u can im me.

Answer 3

Proceed with A LOT of caution, there are some real freaks out there. If you are going to meet him, do it in public for a while. Be very careful, it is really easy for someone to type out a lot pf lies on the internet, remember you don't really know this person at all and if you meet treat it like he were a stranger you are trying to get to know. Be Safe.

Answer 4

Please be very careful. There are predators on the Internet. Take good care of yourself and get as much info about the guy as you can, then do a criminal background check on him, you should never meet him anywhere alone, before you do this. If he is on the level he will not mind you bring your friend to a meeting with him in a very public place. Do the background check first.

Answer 5

a good guy is a good guy, a cheater is a cheater, a liar is a liar, a man is a man, rather you meet him on the Internet or if you meet him in the street. Do what you feel you should do. The only chances you will probably take is thinking he looks like Justin timberland or denzal and instead he looks like "oh hell"

Answer 6

Well you've been seperated from your husband all but 3 weeks as you say. and this guy on chat whom you have never met in person or even dated tells you he loves you.. I think he knows your vunerable right now so he's making his move.

I'd be careful of someoene whom you've never dated and really gotten to know in such a short amount of time say I love you.

Answer 7

dont ' go for someoen on the internet. thats such a long shot. dont' tell him you love him. and i can't beleive he's telling you that. he sounds desperate. i only say that cause he's fallig for someone on the net and not going out there and meeting real people. or he has and gets no were with women he approaches. that aside.....your ending a marriage....or separated anyways. do what you need to do while separated.........figure out whats going on in your marriage. what you can salvage if anything. what needs to be worked on. what you did.......look at changing your own behaviours. that much you can be accountable for. you can tell your husband what he did that upset you and how it affects you. but if he changes it will be up to him. be accountable for your own actions. let your husband's voice be heard as well. what he thinks he needs to change. or what in the marriage needs to be worked on together etc. good luck. but dont' go forward with the second guy. its pointless at this stage. its only a diversion to what you need to be looking at.

Answer 8

ignore the "love" stuff. If he seems like he might be a nice guy meet him to see for yourself.

make it someplace public and bring along a friend (a big guy and his girlfriend) just in case he isn't a nice guy. The friends could sit a few tables over so they aren't listening in but close enough he can get there fast if he needs to.

that's my suggestion.

Answer 9

I would be a little careful until you get to know this man better. It seems strange that he would tell you he loves you before you two have even meet. I would start off with dates out to dinner and a movie until you get to know him better. From there, I would have him meet some of your friends and family members and ask to meet his friends and family members. Go with your gut feeling at all times in order to keep yourself safe.

Answer 10

well girl its ok if you trust him and you are in love with him .or have feeling for him...........i am with my boyfriend and we meat on myspace and we have been together for 6 mouths and we are on the phone 24/7 its the best relationships i have ever been in and girl dint think about all the bed on the net if you love him you need to trust him dint Liston to ever one who just talks about the bed **** on the net there is good stuff to that come from the net