I have the chance to relocate and be married to a very special man, but will have to move my kids 1300 miles from Grandma and aunts and uncles. Is it more important for children to have strong male role model in house or extended family around ?
2006-10-08 02:25:00 · 7 answers · asked by JustCurious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all family is important....if the stepfather is the right one for you and your kids go for it....family is always family no matter how far away.
2006-10-08 02:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by lyndles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How well do you know this man? You will have no family support for yourself or your children. Have you done a criminal background check on this man? Many children grow up healthy and happy without their mother marrying a man, just to be a role model. Did you know that child predator's seek out women with children? Your family is so important in your life. If he is a great guy he will relocate where you are.
2006-10-08 02:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a hard one and i thought about it before i answered it. In my opionion it is important that the kids and yourself be happy.Family is always there . You can visit them. A good man to you and your children is even better. My question to you at this point which i do not see in your question is where is the real father of the children? That is a important question. Where did you meet this man that he lives so far away from you? Are you sure that this relationship is gonna last that you pick up everything to move to where he is? I ended up with more questions that you lol.....Moving to a place where you have noone is going to be very hard to deal with. I know that right now you are thinking about having a god man but not having family around is going to be a big adjustment. Please think long and hard about what you are about to do cause to me there is alot to think about here. There is no easy answer.
2006-10-08 03:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Karen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you love your partner, and are your children happy to have him around as much as you do? Speaking from experience I have made such a move myself. Firstly you must think of yourself as well, you have to be happy to make your children happy.
Maybe its great to have your family around but they are not the ones that have to live with you and are not necessarily there to support you all of the time like your partner.
If the kids are happy with this man, you should both talk to them together to see how they feel and tell them of your own thoughts, thats if they are old enough.
My family has grown now, but I have never regreted the move, and they didnt hold it against me in anyway either in fact they call my partner "Dad".
My children visited family on school holidays when they were old enough and we were in touch frequently.
Altermately it is your choice, its a big life decision, do what you feel is best, good luck.
2006-10-08 02:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by tassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loving stepfather would be better as this will put them close to you. If he turns out to be a compassionate person then children will get the opportunity to learn a lot.Otherwise you can bank on your parents as the second choice.
2006-10-08 02:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say both would be important. You have a very difficult decision to make. Good Luck.
2006-10-08 02:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are the kids? it makes a difference.
2006-10-08 02:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋