Last night my husband came home drunk, threw me up against the wall and threatened to kill me. I had him arrested and he wont get out until sometime after this weekend. I'm confused on if I should stay or go. He only acts like this when he's drunk and if he gets help with that problem, then things would be a lot better. The only thing is, I don't know if he'll get the help he needs even though he admitted that he did need help last night. I have 2 boys who love their father very much and it would break their hearts to have to leave their daddy. I thought about having someone with me here when he gets out so we can talk and try to work this out and to just see if he is willing to get help. If not, then I'll leave. I'm scared, depressed, hurt and confused. Please help me as I am very lost.
2006-10-08 02:14:04 · 7 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do not give your husband excuses!! He abused you!! He will do it again!!
Protect your children and yourself.
Just Leave him and don't look back.
Roll up your sleeves and just do it!!
Your not at fault here.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-10-08 02:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he admits he needs help, that's great. Getting help will prove that he understands that he is out of control. Until he does get that help, you and your boys are in danger. You say it would break their hearts to leave their daddy, however, they might not be as devastated as you think, especially if they have witnessed their father's irrational and violent behavior. You don't have to give up on your husband, or your marriage. But don't continue to put yourself at risk. WHEN he has had councelling, WHEN he has joined AA, WHEN he has proven that he is willing to do whatever it takes to be the man that you deserve, THEN you can welcome him back into your home. IF he refuses to do those things, then your next step is the lawyer's office for a divorce. Your life, and the lives of your children, should be your first concern. Good luck!
2006-10-08 02:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by hrprrbn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you're in this mess Lisa, what you should do is grab your sons and get the hey outta there. There is no sense in staying in a marriage like that "just for the sake of the kids". That logic went out the door a long time ago. Good Luck.
2006-10-08 02:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad that you are okay, let me be blount with you
that is such bullshit on his behalf. That is a very dangerous
situation for you and your boys, they dont deserve to see anything
like that and you dont want them growing up and doing that to their wives, that is too much drama, get a divorce and move on
you and your kids are worth a whole lot more and it will be best for the boys
2006-10-08 02:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by twinkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should considor getting couple therapy or take him to rehabilation, you shouldn't leave him or get scared. Stay strong and I know that the power inside you will lead the way.
2006-10-08 02:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by miss simple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok altho your sons love there father, he asbuses you, what he does is wrong! leave him! dont wait until he is better or gets help, leave him NOW! your sons will have to understnd, how will you know he wont do this to you again.. read what you wrote.. he THREATENED TO KILL YOU!! he may just attempt it then go after your boys, get yourself and them out of there right away, !!!!!
2006-10-08 02:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Julz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, definitly go if he did it once it will more than likely happen again or get worse. It could eventually happen to your children too. He will say anything to get you to stay but as soon as he knows your staying it will go back to the same thing again.
2006-10-08 02:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by dionysus26047 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋