I have been with my partner for almost 4 years now and we live together. I am 21 and he is 24.
He has been employed in his first job for 10 months now and I am a full time student. He works 9-6 and is out of the house 8-7. When he is at home he is moody and tired and says he doesn't get enough time to himself.
I expected this to wear of as he settled into the job. But instead it seems to have gotten worse. I agreed to not speak to him or be "needy" during the week as I could understand his feelings, but now he doesn't want to do anything at the weekends either.
It fustrates me that he'd rather be online all weekend than doing something with me!
I have asked to do things but he won't agree in advance of the weekend and therefore it never happens. And he says that he enjoys doing nothing cos he doesn't get enough of it.
Is this normal?
2006-10-08 01:33:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is supposed to be a relationship? I think you may be heading into a life you are not going to be very happy in. If he won't do anything on the weekends, how can the relationship grow. Is there any intimacy left or is it only when his needs need to be met? All couples no matter what the scenerio is needs to take the time for one another. And in no way should you have to walk around your own home on your tiptoes and not talk to him, he is your partner and should be a friend. If he wont' agree to a real relationship then maybe its time to give him what he wants ... time to himself. Good Luck
2006-10-08 01:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by firefighter 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if you let it keep on. It is became a habit. If he wishes to stay on the net then so be it. You go out to the mall or something and make sure to invite him along. You need your time out with friends (him if he goes and or others). Make it a habit to go out and do things on the weekends and even a couple evenings. His next thought may be about money. So pick things that don't cost a lot. Walking the mall or going skating is just two ideas. I do not know you so it may be more like fishing or just hanging out at another couples house. either way you need to get out of the house.
2006-10-08 01:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay... it seems to me that everyone works including myself. i work a rigourus schedule and i get very little time at home but the time I do get I try and spend with my wife. Now me and my wife's birthday are 1 day apart... so we're both 23. I guess since he has energy to hop on the internet, I hate to say this to you but he's probably thinking of or already has cheated on you...
if you wanna talk some more i would like to help... my IM sn is : sportz_237.. im in iraq currently so if i dont answer right away ill get to you.
greg
2006-10-08 01:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by cowboysfan4lyfe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately yes. People these days work so hard that when they are at home they just want to rest and relax. He does need to spend some time with you each week instead of online.
2006-10-08 01:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Funny Bunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Typical guy .... I would just let him be and you enjoy life too, start going out with friends dont sit around and wait for him. He wont know he has lost a good thing until he loses it.....
2006-10-08 01:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT normal from his side.
You are clearly Not his first choice in life any more... sounds bad but it's true!
You sound caring and loving enough to find someone better.
2006-10-08 01:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by FBiT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him n then he will just realise how much u meant to him n wen he cums sobbing at ur door let him beg u n dont surrender very quickly otherwise he'l take advantage of u. make him wait for gud stuf
2006-10-08 02:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not normal at all & I think you need to find out his real reasons for not spending time with you.Sounds real fishy !
2006-10-08 01:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You bet it's normal! He's under a lot of pressure at work. Give him space and let him work it out his way, not yours.
2006-10-08 01:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him
2006-10-08 01:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by alig8or_1965 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋