Should i continue?

Question

I am married with 2 beautiful kids but that's it. If it wasn't for them, i would have left. He wasn't exactly the perfect husband even though he does not flirt, drink or smoke. That's the problem. He's too disciplined, righteous raditional and very old fashion. Now, I have a boyfriend, who happens to be married but open minded like me. We both got together a year ago. Sparks ignited the first time we met and he hid his feeling from me for months. We were attracted to each other at first sight. Only problem is, we are not able to meet each other like all illicit couples do. We seldom call each other for being afraid of being found out and we have tried to end it 3 times but always got back together because we cannot bear to be apart. We meet twice a week for classes and that's it, if situation permits, we make out, otherwise, we just look longingly at each other. we have not consummated this affair even after 10 months. so what shall I do? Do i continue or call it quits. I love this ma

Answer 1

I think you're in love with the thought of having a relationship with this man. YOU DON'T KNOW HIM!!!!!!!! Analyze what you have written! You only see him twice a week during a class, you rarely call eachother, so you haven't really found out what he is all about. All you do is make out with him when circumstances permit. You are playing with fire, honey. For all you know, this man can be playing games with you. I don't care what he tells you. You have a man at home who is disciplined, which means he will probably never cheat on you. You'd rather have a man who drinks, smokes, flirts his butt off, etc. Well, I had one of those. I was married for 24 years to a man who drank and flirted with anything that could wear a skirt, and who knows what else. All he didn't do was smoke. Well, I found out he cheated on me several times. You better think twice before you risk losing your husband. You don't know what you have until you lose it. Believe me, my ex-husband is feeling that now. Went from living in a beautiful 4 bedroom house to living in the projects. He chose to play the game and he lost.

This man is a fairy tale to you. You need to start spicing up your own marriage and forget this guy. I can bet that if you were to leave your husband and try to start something with this man, he would want out of the relationship fast. Besides, why would you want to be with someone who cheats on his wife. Hmmmm?

Answer 2

your complaining about your husband being a good man???????? you need to stop and listen to what you just said then you should leave his home soon and leave his kids with him. they derserve someone that is "disciplined, righteous raditional and very old fashion". however i do understand some people need excitment in there live if this is the case you should talk to him and if that don't work create some exciment. but if your not happy you can't make your husband or kids happy so maybe you should leave. be warned though, are you sure your new boyfriend is willing to leave home to be with you

Answer 3

Once a cheater always a cheater, You both probably deserve each other, and I realy mean that! People who cheat in marriges will find what goes around comes around and 1 , 2 or even 3 years down the like he will be porking someone else and you will be left with nothing but memories, Oh ask my X wife, Thats exactly what happend to her.

Answer 4

What you want is excitement... you love your husband and that the reason why you married him... now you find the other man is better as he give you the feeling that you have long wanted which an honest man like your husband cant give.. what you do now is like a gamble, you can win or lose all including your kids... you have to think carefully.. the decision is up to you...

Answer 5

Have you considered what this might do to your children? You married this man for a reason. Just because there is an attraction doesn't mean that it's worth giving everything up for.

Answer 6

On what grounds would you divorce the perfect father of your children? I can sympathize, but I think if you cannot find a better reason, you should work things out with your husband. Counseling might help.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

If you really love this man, and he really loves you, you should divorce your husband and quit seeing this man while you and he are married.

Do not stay in a relationship for your children, this will only make it worse for them and show them that when they grow up having a relationship without love is normal.

Answer 9

if you love him, you should be with him. Divorce your husband. Staying in a loveless marriage for the children is stupid. Children arn't stupid and will pick up on the unhappiness of their parents. Go make yourself happy, and in the long run you'll make your kids happy too. You only get one life, don't waste it with someone who you don't love/ doesn't love you.

Answer 10

You want him cos you 2 never really have the chance to get together. Things may be changed once if you're close to him.