My nine year old masturbates regularly. Its not something I want to try and come down on her heavily for, but when should I start to try and get her to stop?
2006-10-08 00:28:45 · 14 answers · asked by billyjosmith99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why is your 9 year old masturbating? Where did she learn this from? Has she been sexual abused? These are just a few questions I'd be asking myself before I worried about getting her to stop. Tell her that there is nothing wrong with masturbation, its just something that shouldn't be done until she is older. Since there isn't anything wrong with masturbation, its a good and healthy thing, just shouldn't be doing it at her age. I really would worry if someone has abused her or who her friends are and who she is getting this information from
2006-10-08 00:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it damaging her? Or, does it embarrass you?
Make sure to define the problem before you seek a solution. Then address the problem. If she is performing in front of friends or out in public then address that issue. If she shares a room with a younger sister you don't want exposed to it then address that issue. If she wakes everyone in the house up three times a night address that issue. If the problem is you are a prude then address that issue. Masturbation is not something like putting needles in her arm, branding herself with hot steel or carving pieces from her body with a razor. Frankly I would be more concerned if my daughter wanted 60 body piercings with 30 above the shoulders, 20 below the waist and the remainder in between.
Just make certain you know what you are trying to fix before you open the tool box.
2006-10-08 00:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly how do you know she is masturbating? have you caught her doing it, if so maybe thats when you should be talking to her about it. Other wise masturbation is a normal progression in a young persons life, and as a mother of 2 girls, I know they start this at different ages depending on there maturity.
As far as stopping her goes, it wont be possible, and as it is normal and everyone does it during thier teen and adult lives I really think you are better 2 let her alone, as you dont want to make her feel she is being bad by doing it or dirty in anyway, hense giving her a complex.
I have know young girls to get there period at this age so possibly your daughter may be one of these girls that are just more mature body wise than others her age. If she is doing this in a room with other younger children then maybe talk to her about that, but otherwise let her mature normally.
2006-10-08 02:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by tassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not qualified in this area at all but I would say that discouraging her to do so could actually do some damage as you don't want her to feel guilty about it. However I see your concern at the fact that she is nine, however I do think that it will be something she will just grow out of. In the meantime if you want to stop her just distract her.
2006-10-08 01:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal for her to masterbate, my mom told me when I was younger that if I'm going to do it the just make sure I'm in private by my self. Masterbating is a normal thing to do. I don't see the problem as long as she's in private and not telling everyone or around people then I see no problem with it personally.
2016-08-17 04:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Caleb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do unto others what u expect others to do unto u. How did u behave at that age? Age of 9 is not the generally the age of masturbation i.e. reaching the climax. If it is only scratching now and then, it does not amount to masterbating.
2006-10-08 01:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not let her stop coz it will back fire on u later,instead,let her masterbate as much as she wants to,coz it is better than getting pregnant or getting some sort of uncurable disease,try to talk to her about safe sex instead,and not about stop masterbating,it is normal thing to do,and i bet u did it while u were her age,so why let her stop,it is completely health thing to do,but try not to let her over do it,coz there r other things in life also,like her studies..,so no harm no foul.try also to befriend her,that way u can know every thing she is doing.
2006-10-11 03:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbating is a normal part of sexual development. However it is unusual in someone of her age. I would be concerned about her exposure to this behavior. You should be concerned about whether someone is touching her inappropriately or if she is being exposed to porn or some other type of sexual behavior. As a social worker, I am extremely concerned. Please do not ignore this, talk to your daughter.
2006-10-08 00:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by mad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is only nine and she is masterbating already then she will take anything you have to say on board as well because she is obviously mature enough to masterbate so she is mature enough to listen to your concerns so go for it.
2006-10-08 00:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by magnum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why try to stop her? You'll just embarass her, she'll not likely stop because you ask her to, and if you're afraid it's going to make her promiscious, it won't. It's something she'll lose interest in... or not, either way this is one of those battles to pick wisely.
2006-10-08 00:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋