I am married for 2 months,i understand the whole spend time with the friends, boys night out scenarios but now do u think it is fair just after a marriage that it he spends all his free time with the boys. It is almost like he doesnt have to work to get me anymore so now i am just there!! We don't do anything special just the two of us!
2006-10-07 23:27:17 · 14 answers · asked by da gold 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Welcome to the "after I say I do" life,this is headed for disaster if you dont stop it now.If the boys night out is more important than you then there is definetly something more going on.I would have a very long talk with your new husband and tell him exactly how you feel about this,when you here his reply then you will know who is more important
2006-10-07 23:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now that he's married he should be spending less time with his friends and more time with u. There's nothing wrong with him going out with his buddies once in a while but if they're taking up too much of his time he could be spending with u, then u need to start talking to him and let him know how u feel about it.
2006-10-07 23:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely not normal, you have to do something about that immediately before it's too late. Let him understand that he can loose you anytime and he shouldn't take you for granted. I don't mean that you should cheat on him - that's stupid, but a little jealousy will definitely help!
Go out with your friends, come home late, let him wait for you. Try to think about your apparel - don't think that as long he is your husband you can walk in pajamas whole day.
Life will show you everything else ...
2006-10-08 00:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i dont think this is fair, have you tried to talk to him about it? maybe you can pick a night that you two know your going to be together with no "boys" there!.........freshly married people usually spend every waking moment together hope you made the right choice sweetie, ask for what you need ok, no-one else can do that 4 ya!.........Honour your own truth your worth it!!
2006-10-07 23:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by Donna S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not fair. If your husband can't get into you emotionally it's your job to keep him from getting into you any other way. With a little stiffness in his life he may be ready to spend more quality time with you.
2006-10-07 23:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not fair,maybe Arab men(I'm married to one,dont know if you too) are used to do that after marriage it made me feel bad too but I talked to him & we manage it
Talk to him & Good luck
2006-10-09 08:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by Maro's mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys Suck! You should start going out with your friends or join a club or do volunteer work at night. If you start going out he will notice and won't be happy. Tell him how much fun you had and leave it at that. If that doesn't work go to counseling or become swingers!
2006-10-08 00:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by k2cat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex life a little jaded? Not giving him those evening in front of a porno movie while you blow him? Anal sex..I didnt think so..outdoor? Group stuff? BDSM? Come on..work at it start making it worthwhile to stay at home becasue he is getting it elsewhere and his pals are showing him what he is missing..get the KY Jelly out and go for it xxx God Bless You
2006-10-07 23:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why weren't these differences worked out before marriage ?you may say you thought things would be different,well you should have asked if he was gonna continue to behave in this way and then you would have had a choice.
2006-10-07 23:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No of course it isnt fair, but you already know that, so instead of needing confirmation from us strangers, tell your husband that you are not satisfied, only you and he can make things better.
2006-10-07 23:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by rubyflats 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋