Possibly pregnancy, need some advice?

Question

I'm a 20 year old male, and had unprotected sex with a lady. She was just getting off her period, we had sex the day after she was off. It was not really sex persay...she sat on "me" and just sat there. I did not ejaculate and it only lasted for a few moments. This took place in a hot tub so any precum that had been there beforehand would have been dead.
I just worry about every time I have sex and get so nervous and anxious that I literally can not sleep. I would like to know how big of a possibility it is that she is pregnant and also some ways to keep positive and keep it out of my mind.

Answer 1

Okay, to put your mind at ease a little : the way YOU describe it happened, it's highly unlikely the girl you had sex with is pregnant.
However, you WILL have to wait until she gets her next period to be sure.

Only positive things you can do is, IMHO anyway : keep verbally in touch with that lady and tell her about your worries, so you will know if she has the same worries as well. (So WHAT IF she thinks you're acting stupid?! You weren't the only one, you BOTH had unprotected sex)
Go trough this together, don't run away from it....you called HER a "lady", now YOU'll have to behave like a "gentleman". (takes two to tango, you know that)

And I know you don't want to hear the following, you'll probably say : I KNOW all that, geez, I'm 20 already!!".
But apparently you DON'T know a thing, and you certainly didn't behave like a 20 year old.

I'm NOT judging you, far from it, I'm just worried about you.
The thing to worry about isn't "JUST" the possibility of getting a girlfriend pregnant after having unprotected sex, you know.
It isn't as if the only other thing you need to be scared about is getting aids, there are other things that can be just as bad.
What about if you, and/or the lady in question, contract a venereal disease?
Oh, there are simple forms of it, easily to treat with medicines, but there are also forms that can do much, much harm to you.
(NO, don't panic, it's also highly unlikely you contracted any of these diseases after having unprotected sex the one time......but it's a possibility, and I feel I need to scare you enough to never have unprotected sex again. Well, except you're ready for having kids, of course)

I'm pretty sure YOU aren't having unprotected sex every night with a different lady, or you wouldn't be so scared right now. I just hope the lady isn't doing so either.

So please, please, PLEASE : use a condom next time, it will prevent you from having to worry all the time after you've had sex with a lady. (seems to me the fun of having sex is bitter anyway, when you've got to worry afterwards)....besides, be creative, and make putting the condom on exciting, instead of thinking about is as an unwelcome interruption of the "high" you are after)

Good luck!

Answer 2

Okay, first of all, it's very unlikely that she's pregnant, so relax about that. If had been about a week later, then she probably would have been ovulating, but not so quickly after getting off her period.
Second of all, carry condoms with you if you are so strongly feeling the need to have sex with people. It sounds like you are not involved with this woman, that it was a casual thing. That's fine, you are young, and young men like casual sex. But keep in mind that as long as you are engaging in it then, you might end up getting someone pregnant. Or you could find a nice girl to date and eventually love, then you and she can have an open dialog about sex and protection and you'll know where you stand and you can both agree on a form of birth control. I'm not saying get married, it's just that even at your young age, sex with someone you have real feelings for can be very enjoyable. Plus you also won't have to worry about getting some disease, even in a hot tub you can catch and STD. Have fun, but be careful.

Answer 3

Son, sounds like you got you a few problems. Basically you sound a bit immature (and I dont mean that in a nasty way) The chances of this lady getting pregnant are extremely remote. However, unprotected sex in this day and age is basically crazy. You should be worrying about STD's and wether you have caught any. Are you spreading disease yourself? Do yourself a favour and use a condom. That way you can enjoy the moment and relax afterwards too

Answer 4

I highly doubt you got her pregnant. But if you don't want to become a daddy anytime soon or catch some kind of disease, then you'd better start practicing safer sex and wear a condom every time.

Answer 5

I very seriously doubt you got her pregnant. It really isn't as easy as all that - especially if you didn't have pentration and ejaculation. But I would suggest in the future that before you have sexual contact that you discuss it with the girl and discuss birth control methods. One or both of you should be protected before anything happens. Good luck.

Answer 6

You can get pregnant any time even DURING a period!!
you need to think about other things too because Pregnany maybe the least of your worries.

Answer 7

I dont think I would be worried if I were you. I woman doesnt ovulate until 6-12 days after her period

Answer 8

you would be able to desire to speak to every person you will have faith. somebody you need to have may be pointed out a protracted time or your total existence who you would be certain won't likely judge you and could make it easier to something you're making a sort to do. How long have you ever pointed out your boyfriend are you waiting to have faith him or one extra family member aside out of your mum(if such as you suggested she is going to teach and make you reside jointly along with your Dad, ought to residing jointly along with your Dad be one in each of these risky element?) yet another element you would be able to desire to do is to look your GP or a doctor as immediately as you in all risk can to communicate your alternatives and make a sort what you desire to do. they're there that might actually assist you and recent you suggestion. If now no longer seem up on the internet to look if there is any family making plans clinics close you which you are going to drop into anonymously. I understand this is in basic terms suggested than achieved whether inspect to no longer be too scared and verify you're making your very own decision approximately what to do. do no longer focus to somebody else. in easy terms you recognize the disaster you're in. no one has the superb to judge something you do. yet something you do circulate hastily. Make particular you have gotten each physique there that might actually assist you. chatting with you're mum could probably or should not be a properly suggestion. i do no longer comprehend the way she would be waiting to react. you recognize her greater than somebody. you do no longer desire to circulate contained in the back of her back yet while she is this variety of mom who will disown you or won't likely help then you certainly you additionally can would desire to. you may continuously take the possibility. If now no longer your father is one extra selection.

Answer 9

sorry you won't be a daddy any time soon, there is a very very slim chance. like .0000002 chance. so don't worry., but you should get tested never have unprotected sex that is never safe you moron. have a good day.

Answer 10

u r too early to have sex!! use condoms whenever u want sex. y ur worried of getting pregnancy after sex. u knew it already no? u ask her to abort it ,if she gets pregnancy. there r many ways no? dont worry mann!!