how should i stop my husband ,when he dosent like my do,s and donots?

Question

my husband wants to help his friend whose brother wants to marry a very low grade girl and its sort of destruction for their family.my husbands friend wants my husband to call that girl by an unidentified SIM card and motivate her.i feel its better for my husband not to involve in such stories because it can be bad for himself at last ,but i don,t know how to make him understnad because he dosent like DO,S AND DONOT,S .please say me the way how to communicate with him.

Answer 1

Relax. The decisions of your relatives are, fortunately, not your problem. This may be tough to do, but stay outta it. This will save YOU many headaches in the long run and will result in less tension between you and your family.

I hope this helps.

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Answer 2

The Three Rs
Roland says you should remember three critical ideas when communicating with your spouse. First, relax by managing your emotions, words and actions. Secondly, relate to your husband; seek to understand him. Finally, release: When an argument is over, leave it that way.
Find a Good Time and Place
Before trying to have a talk with your husband, pick a time when he's most relaxed—not when he's walking in the door from work. Men are activity-oriented, so try taking a walk while you talk, or take a long drive...just the two of you, to get his full attention.

Warm-Up Questions
Roland suggests beginning with some warm-up questions. Use them to spark a meaningful conversation between you and your husband. Be sure to listen to your spouse's responses without judging him. Remember, the goal is to understand where he's coming from. Try these sample questions:

When you worry, what do you worry about most?

When do you feel happiest?

The Bigger Picture
After you've used the warm-up questions, try these:


What one thing would make this the best year of our lives?

How can I support your role as a father?
What do you dream for yourself?

You may be able to start a conversation, but don't become too frustrated if your husband doesn't completely open up immediately. Sometimes, just expressing your interest can be the beginning of bigger communication.

Answer 3

What is a "low-grade girl"? and What's the deal with an unidentified "SIM" card? Your question isn't clear. As to telling him what to do well most men don't like to be told what to do that isn't new. Let the chips fall where they may. He may be one of those hard-headed individuals who doesn't believe in consequences until he actual experiences them. Nagging him will just push him in a direction you don't want.

Answer 4

The best approach would be to speak with your husband without getting on his defensive and possibly making him angry. Ask him calmly. Try not to sound commanding but rather, request that he doesn't partake in that kind of activity which is none of his business anyway, as this is between his friend's brother and the girl he wants to marry. It has nothing to do with u or your husband.

Answer 5

Your husband should stay out of that situation completely. Tell him you don't like him calling other women on anybody's behalf. If the girl is not motivated to marry the friend's brother, he should look elsewhere.

Answer 6

Next time he wants you to do something, tell him you don't respond to DO'S and DONOT'S either.
Maybe he will get it through his thick skull that if he wants you to respect his wishes, he has to respect yours too.
By the way, I agree that this is a bad thing for him to get involved in. He should let his friend's brother sort out his own love life.

Answer 7

I think that I would point out that doing things like that sound very much like applying for a place on the Gerry Springer show and exactly how much does that idea appeal.

Answer 8

this to too much. ur hubby is a freak . talk to him and make himunderstand what bothers u.if he don't get it , just step out of ur relationship.

Answer 9

Tell him that if the marriage doesn't work out he will be the one they blame.