I just want to see what yahoo'ers think. I have 3 children, work full time, great marriage and nice house. We might want another. We are really really tired though with working and 3 kids, but we know it gets better after the babies are 6 months old.
We're good parents but 4 would be hectic. Should that matter? I know it wouldn't matter if I wasn't working. If I wasn't working, I couldn't afford to have another!
2006-10-07 20:27:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I will say this.. if you have a fourth, don't wait too long!
Our household is a "blended family", but we have a huge age gap with #4. Ours are 14 (boy), 13, (boy), 9 (boy), and 3 (girl).
There is always someone feeling "left out". I think if they were all closer in age it wouldn't be the case. Of course in our situation we had no control over this... but you just might!
I would think the "three's a crowd" thing would apply with three kids in the house and I would tend to lean towards an even number, but maybe I'm just weird that way.
With four it is a real pain finding cars that are big enough unless you have a minivan... and it's been a challenge for us to find a house big enough too! Because of the ages and genders we really need a 5 bedroom and we rent, and they are just not easy to come by!
I think I'd rather go for it though, rather than be 40 something and regretting not having that fourth baby! :)
2006-10-07 20:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a decision only you and your husband can make. If you feel that you can do it, go for it. If you're having doubts, then think on it a little longer. I have four children (15, 9, 4, 3 yrs), and my husband and I are talking about having another child (no decision yet). I'm a full-time college student (graduate with with two certificates and Associates Degree in May 2007), and my husband is the only one working right now, and it is sometimes difficult, but we also know that it will get better after I finish school. No body can make this decision for you, but you'll know whatever you decide it will be the right choice.
Good luck.
2006-10-07 22:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tawney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have any doubt about it then you should not do it. i am pregnant with my third right now. i don't work though and don't really need to my job is a full time mom and wife. lol. wish you could get paid for that. im sure your a full time mom and wife too plus you work so far thats one job per kid. you know? so why don't you try to imagine what it would be like to have one more. ? I love babies and want a whole house full myself but we are stopping at three. but thats what is best for us. do what is best for you and your family. good luck.
2006-10-07 22:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can handle it go for it if not then no i know when i get to that point i am going to have to say no since right now i am in college full time and a mother full time of a 7 yr old one on the way its hectic now
2006-10-07 20:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care what we think? I have 4 children myself, and if I could afford to undo my tubes, I would have another. Money isn't everything, although it can make life easier. If you think you can handle another little one then go for it.
2006-10-07 22:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you & your hus are the only one that can decide that one
this ? is so personal yahoo is not the place to ask
you two need to discuss finance,
do you want to carry another child
the pros & the cons
(probably more pros than cons)
but neitherless it is your & his decision only
Good Luck
2006-10-08 06:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can handle it then great, but if you are to iffy on it then stick with three, you don't want to much pressure when it comes to college tuition for all of them.
2006-10-07 20:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my rule of thumb usually is, if you have to question it, best not to....Youve already given yourself three reasons why it would be hard for you to want another.Sounds like some solid good reasons....
Good luck to you's
2006-10-07 22:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by **twin** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋