my wife had sexual relation before marriege with her elder sisters hu bend after marrige to me she had sexual

Question

relation with my sisters husbend .now i know after10 year of marrige . what to do dont understand

Answer 1

you directly ask your wife whether she had illicit relationship with her brother-in-law or not. ask her if she is still loving him .if she says she still loves him, divorce her. other wise if she says, lack of mental maturity, she had sexual relation ship with her brother in law and now she is repenting, forget her past life and be happy. you did not mention her age when she had that affair with her sister's husband. how did you come to know about it after 10 years? probe whether it is true or false.if she shows remorse, bury that past and lead a happy married life.if you still could not solve this problem yourselves, consult a good psychologist, he will counsel you. all the best

Answer 2

FIRST OF ALL U HAVE TO B VERY VERY SURE THAT ITS TRUE AND NOT A HERESAY before the alligation. u came to know of it after 10 yrs of marriage. how were these 10yrs?when exactly after marring u did she cheat? do u love her, does she love u, r there any children involved, does her sis knows about this? does yr sis know about this? how did u come to know of this?
do u see yr future wi her? since all cased are individual and no individuals are alike.
if u think she will never do it again and that u both have a good sexual relationship and connect together well, this issue should not break yr marriage. but the choice is yrs. what do u want? if my wife did what yrs did, i wud look into the whole issue and if it happened very soon after marriage i most probably wud forgive her. what she has to say, y did she do it? theres no reason for u to feel that u must be inadiquate in anyway.
alternatively if u think u cant live wi the fact and find yrslf incapable of forgiving her and ready to leave her for good and move on, so do it. but if u think theres still a chance to get over it then u will have to work on it.
but by nature we r all lazy, we wud rather let this go and move on instead of nurturing and working on what we have.
All the best and may gods light guide u and sail u through these torturous times.
on second thoughts, may b she has a problem n needs help.
or perhaps its her habbit to sleep wi sisters husbands. talk it out wi her see and decide for yrslf.

Answer 3

Your wife seems to want what everyone else has! I guess possession is 9/10ths of the law, but she is yours. Tell her that if she continues this behavior, you will inform all of the sisters that she has had relationships with their husbands. I am sure she will either stop, or they will stop her! It may be rough for a while, but when the sisters realize what has been going on, if they love their men, it will be stopped by them. If they don't love their men, look for alot of divorces! If she doesn't stop, maybe you should be thinking of this option also! You married her for better or worse, it can't get much worse that family relationships with the family. She has crossed the line, she promised you also, for better or worse ! Has she kept her end of the deal??Why should you!!! Try talking first, if that doesn't work, try walking! There is a woman out there who will love you enough to take her wedding vows seriously enough to keep her loving at home with her man - that is you! A rolling stone gathers no moss, but who wants a stone in the rose garden that you could be yours!

Answer 4

If she hasn't been unfaithful to you by any means during all these years of your married life, I don't think you have anything to complain about. Just think - you too had some sort of sexual experience before you met her, didn't you? If thats OK, why not hers?

All you could tell her is to share the truths of her life with you with candor and trust. And ask her to that a lot sooner rather than waiting 10 years!

Plus, you should also tell her that promiscuity within the social/family circumference (e.g. with a relative's husband!) can be fatal and painful.

Last but not the least, crack a good joke out of it and jokingly tease her - "Now can I have some fun with your sister to make it even?"

Cheers man, nothing has been lost!

Answer 5

Its called maintaining a family relationship, you know, keeping it in the family. But you seem to be so hurt by this.
I don't understand why you are upset, you know that your sister is married to her (your wife) brother and the sex she had before marriage, was with her uncle.
I honestly believe you would be the first knuckle dragging hillbilly hick on the Jerry springer show, who would voice a dislike and concern for your ex-wife's behavior.
Also, you failed to mention that your ex-wife is your aunts. youngest sister. So, does that mean that you are your own uncle and your kids are your nieces and nephews.

Answer 6

Verify your sourses before making such a serious charge its very common for people to plant stories specially if women are social.

I dont know what is the reson why people spread rumours and level allegations to spoil others life

hope good sense will prevail on you

Suggestion to myself and my friends who giving advice we should resrtict our advice if we are not sure about facts sorry for being harsh

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Answer 7

some guys taking advantage of her when you are not around and blackmailing her if she does not give in.so she is second to blame.punish the guys who did wrong to her.if you leave her she will have no place to go.talk to her,take her into confidence and safeguard her from such hawks.give her so much love to erase those bad memories.if she was really bad she would not have been with you for 10 years.So for her crime askher to give you more love to enable you come off the trauma.

Answer 8

WHAT is there to understand?10 years of happy married life must have wiped off all the memories of pre marital sex both yours and hers.So why do u brood now.If she is faithful to u now ,do not try to remember her past.And you know very well that you are not a saint,u too must have your quota of sex before marriage.So relax and enjoy your married life.dont spoil yours and her life and that of your children.

Answer 9

hello sir

i read ur Question. first u identify still that activity going on.

if its continue u try to cinvay ur wife otherwise u just live it

What about ur wife sister?!. she is merried or not?! i don't know.

U dont do the divorce.Because these activity automatically gone

after gays gone

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Answer 10

IT should be DIVORCE time! She has a thing for taken men. The reason, is she probably doesn't see them as a threat to your marriage as they are married. They would have just as much to lose. But, if she is cheating on you, you need to get rid of her quick.