k soooo there is absolutely no way i could fit all of my thoughts and feelings behind this question in this little box but im going to try. soooo I feel in love with this girl online. i know it may sound silly or just not a good idea but ive honestly never felt this way before. trust me i was a total mess before i met her and now i dont know what i would do without her. i am just completely in love i know i want no one else but her and i know ill never be this close to anyone ever again. but my problem is she lives in canada. i dont really know if thats such a big deal but what should i do? like we have never met before only online i mean should i move out there or what? lol wanna try and help?
2006-10-07 19:01:18 · 6 answers · asked by Tyler B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok..heres what ive learned and ive been married to a woman ive met online and we have been together now for a yr and a half(known her for 3 years total). The first thing that you should always do is spend time with her in person and get to really know her and her quirks. There are things that you just cannot sense online or even on the phone. I can tell you from experience that this will save you lots of time and head/heartache. Many things change when you are connected in person and even over time. Things are usually not the same as online. Feelings are more involved in person. Communication can end up being different. Bottom line: DO NOT RUSH INTO ANYTHING!
2006-10-07 19:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by jimisrvrox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, the first thing you do is start planning a visit ... a week or two to start, and see if you are compatible together face to face. If possible, this first visit, leave sex out of it because it can complicate things, and also cause unneccessary pressures. Meet as friends and forge the freindship part of the relationship.
If that works out well, then continue the online relationship,. and start planning another visit ... like, if you went to visit her the first time, then have her come visit you next. If, after several visits, all is well and moving along, then you may want to start thinking long term.
International relationships have some unique obstacles, even just between the US and Canada. One of you will have to immigrate ... this can be a big deal ... because someone is going to have to leave their family and all they know behind. And, the immigration process is going to take a minimum of a year either way you go, and perhaps as long as two (or more) years, depending on a variety of circumstances.
But if it's a good match, then it's worth it!
I moved to Canada to be with my husband, we met 5 years ago and have been married two years.
2006-10-07 20:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip dude...you have never met the girl, she lives in Canada, you met over the Internet, what you are in love with is a fantasy...get it ? A FANTASY. "SHE" could be a older woman, a pedophile GUY, and as to pictures etc. that doesn't mean a thing they can all be faked.
If it does turn out on the remote chance she is who she says she is when you meet she could have horrible habits, have BO, overweight, bad breath or teeth, be bad tempered, controlling, and a real b...i...t...c..h, and unless you have had the chance to go out for a while and find out these things it might be a complete waste of time.
As I said before...get a grip...
2006-10-07 19:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cautious. Go visit her, maybe a long weekend at first. See how it goes. Then she can visit you. Our son in Chicago fell in love with a woman in The Netherlands. They emailed and chatted, then started phone calls. Finally, he said, "I've got to meet this woman." and flew over there for a 4 day visit. Came back head over heels in love. Months later, she came here. They went back and forth for 3 yrs. Have now been married 3 yr and have a 9 month old boy. But both were VERY cautious at first. Usually, if it seems too good to be true, it is. But they found each other. Only prob is they live over there and we only get to see them twice a yr.
2006-10-07 19:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not take a trip out to meet her and see if sparks fly? I mean, if everyone has a soul mate, who's to say they have to be in the same country??
Good luck!
2006-10-07 19:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in your heart that you guys can work something out then go for it, but if not then don't do it...
2006-10-07 19:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋