I decided to put my baby up for adoption (looking for loving adopters)?

Question

Before i posted a question about my fiancee and my baby. I have given alot of thought and decided to give my baby up for adoption. I know alot of you are going to be rude to me but I dont care. I dont think its right for my child to grow up with him and i dont wanna loose him. i'm know looking for an adoption agency or loving people who want a little baby girl

if anyone wants to chat to me about it email me at [e-mail]

Answer 1

We adopted a baby boy 23 years ago, and we know the mother's name but we have never met her. I'd love to tell her how her young man turned out, he is a college student now, studying to be a teacher.

Answer 2

This is really a sad situation.If you don't want your baby then giving her up for adoption is a wise choice because every child deserves to be loved.What others think really shouldn't concern you.I hope you realize that in all probability your boyfriend will not be around for long, anyone that shallow and selfish doesn't stay satisfied and soon moves on. I also hope that you go through an adoption agency so the would be parents are screened and has a back ground check.. I'm sure there are wonderful people on line that would love your baby, But can you go through life"not knowing what kind of people have her"?There are a lot of sick perverted people out there. Peace be with you and good luck.

For anyone considering adoption, please go through an accredited adoption agency. Countless couples that adopt end up with the hearts broken when the birth mother "changes her mind" Even though an adoption is finalized the birth mother can change her mind at any time and if the court finds that she can support the child she will get the child back!

Answer 3

I put my son up for adoption about one year ago and let me tell you if your fiancee can not accept the fact that he got you pregnate and made a child then he does not need to be with you. If you put your child up for adoption you will miss your child like crazy. Even though you love your fiencee you can raise that child on your own. You have a bond with that child and I am sure you would need councling after going through with the adoption process. I am not saying adoption is wrong I am just saying it is not right to choose a man instead of your child. If he loves you he will stick by your side no matter what you choose but I would tell you based on experience it is not worth the heart ache and pain to give your child up. If I could go back in time I would have never gave my child up. E-Mail me for Questions and advice [e-mail]

Answer 4

Im not going to be rude, but you should take a few weeks to think it through before you do this. Having a baby growing inside of you is an amazing thing, then bringing them into this world and the joy they give you is beautiful. Undescribable. You will never forgive yourself in years time when you want to know what she looks like. And if your a*sshole of a boyfriend want to start a family later on again, you will want to know what your daughter is like and also being the sister of your next baby. Your boyfriend has probably just given you this choice because he doesnt think you would go through with it. He will probably dump you as soon as you legally let your baby go anyway. Really think this through sweetie. It will be very painful for you in the longrun. He has probably been with heaps of other women the whole time he was overseas, and you were here waiting for him with his unborn child. Its discusting how males can be sometimes. Your baby will be your angel for the rest of your life, do you realise that?

Answer 5

Hi am looking to adopt and I say thanku 4 not aborting allthough it is ur choice i feel it give that chance to ppl like me that pray 4 a child a second option and as 4 u kudos on doing the what u feel is best 4 u and baby and I really wish I was the 1 who could have her 4 get what others think and I hope who ever gets her allows u to still be apart of her life in some sort of secondary part of her life thanku 4 giving ppl like me a chance to have a baby

Answer 6

I would love to adopt a baby! I am not sure what all is involved. I dont think you are being selfish at all, you are doing the right thing. Keeping her and not caring for her like she needs to be cared for is selfish. Everything will be ok. My friends adopted two little girls from the same mom ones now 12 and 14. They love their family and understand that their mommy could not care for them but loved them very much and thats why they have a different mommy and daddy.

Answer 7

I looked at your profile and you had your baby 3 weeks ago! You carried her while she was growing in your body, kicking, and sharing nourishment. She is 3 weeks old and you worry about your breast feeding yet you still could bring yourself to put him first???!!!???

I know that I cannot understand your situation and none of us can. I saw that you had so many responses, so I was going to leave well enough alone but I saw that somebody mentioned about another question you posted, so it prompted me to look because I usually do not do that.

I am so sorry that he has put you in this situation and you are now on my prayer list whether you like it or not.

I know you cannot understand how we could all agree that he is a jerk, will leave you, and you will regret the whole thing, but think about that very thing. If everybody thinks it, it generally is true. I am sure that it hurts you so much to even consider that thought, but please listen to this advice that you did ask for. Listen especially to the one that told you to get away and think hard about it. I say that you need to throw prayer in there too, even if you don't normally do it.

I can tell that you love your baby sooo much. It will really hurt to give her up. I hope that if you do decide that it is best for her, that you will follow another poster's advce about thinking of having a family member become her guardian. Please base this decision on what is best for her, not anybody else.

God bless you, no matter what...................

Answer 8

Wow... after reading every single response I am first of all speechless to see that one can ever choose a man over an innocent loving being of their own. Not many women are as fortunate to have children and you are! It's not like you are giving your daughter up because you cant support her financially or you have no place to live. You are giving your daughter up for A MAN. Thats tough to understand I must admit! I just have one question considering "YOU THINK" you have made the best decision what do you think your life will really be like after the whole adoption issue is done and taken care of? I mean do you & your husband plan to put it behind you and never discuss it like its an old rag thrown out. I mean I am positive the issue will come up and it will bother you as the mother who carried your child for NINE MONTHS PLUS the issue will come up in the long run and it will break your family apart. Something like this cant be forgotten totally. In the back of your mind it will follow and you will always wonder what if or I wonder how shes doing etc. etc. It's going to be hard. Furthermore I can not even believe someone would even consider being with a man who makes a women choose not only her child but his as well over himself. I mean wow! But keep in mind one important issue and that is this situation will come up later on in the long run and its going to be like you are reliving it all over again :( I wish you luck on everything and hope god can forgive you for making a decision based on a man other than logical real life reasons... :(

Answer 9

I know a couple,my best friends in high school who have adopted one child,I will ask if they are still interested in adopting again and I will email you!This could be a blessing,she said she wanted another but,it is so hard to find a precious baby!

Answer 10

I'm not going to judge you, but i would like you to think about this... adoption is good when you cant afford it, or you cant handle it... but if you are leaving your little girl because your husband is giving you a choice... that's really bad! If you husband is giving you that choice, he doesn't care about you nor that poor little baby.... and eventually he will leave you to, and then what.... you wont have him or your daughter... then you'll really hate him! but how can u as a mother, look into her eyes.... and leave her... FOR A MAN??? I don't get it, for me to leave my child for a man, NEVER... not for anyone, only is god forbid one day, i cant give him what he needs and even at that, i would try everything in the world and that would be my last resort.... good luck to u....