I was masturbating with the same friend from my last post and my dad caught us. He starting screaming and calling us fags and he hit me. He said if I was gonna be gay I was going to have to learn to take it, so he knocked me down and stuck his fingers up my butt. My friend tried to stop him but he beat him up. Is this just normal because of the shock, or should I tell someone?
2006-10-07 18:19:02 · 17 answers · asked by matt 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I swear its true? Is this really unusual, I mean he was just surprised.
2006-10-07 18:23:41 · update #1
My goodness please tell some one.
It is NOT normal for a father to attack you and your friend in such a degrading manner. Yes I can understand that he was shocked and upset, but to do what he did is physical assault and sexual assault, and should never be tolerated.
Please contact your local Youth Service, and have a chat to them, about what happened, they will help you to make a complaint to the police, (if you wish to go that far), and set up some sort of counselling.
I believe you should have charges brought against him, keep in mind that your father has done this once, it wont stop him doing it again! The next attack could be far worse for you and your friend next time.
In the mean time to avoid your fathers outbursts, by not masturbating with your friends, if you must relieve yourself do it in the bathroom, he and no one else has the right to walk into the bathroom, while you are in there. Try to keep your bedroom door open (even if its a jar) when friends come around so, he (your father) has no excuse to walk in to your bedroom.
You don't mention your mum, can you talk to her? I think she may be rather upset, when you do tell her. But the Youth Service may be able to talk to you mum, about what happened and maybe able to set up counselling for her too.
Take care and good luck
2006-10-07 21:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by Georgie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not normal at all. I mean, him hitting you could just be a reaction because of the shock, but the other is absolutely sexual abuse. Try telling your mom or another trusted adult and get the situation resolved as soon as possible.
In the mean time, keep masturbating to yourself in somewhere private..like a locked bathroom.
2006-10-08 10:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Independent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal. That was physical and sexual abuse. They "sticking his fingers up your butt" is the part that worries me most. You should speak with the counselor at your school about getting some help for him before the situation gets worse
2006-10-08 01:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by success 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the beating up part is a normal reaction, but i dont think that him sticking his finger up your butt was called for. i feel violated just thinking about that. why were you masterbating with a guy though? if you are of age to move out, maybe you should.
2006-10-08 01:25:54 · answer #4 · answered by LIL' DEVIL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, you need to tell someone like a teacher or a counsellor. What your dad did is wrong and it's abuse. He needs to go to jail for that kind of thing.
2006-10-08 05:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think you are a 40 year old man who is a molestor and gets a kick out of making people sick
but if you are telling the truth then you and your family are really F*cked up
2006-10-08 01:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are lying. Get off the computer and go to bed. If you are being serious though, I don't know what you can do.
2006-10-08 01:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, your needing attention? Find a postive way. Quit lying.
2006-10-08 01:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sHouLd TeLl SoMeOnE.. tHaT Is nOt NoRmAl :(
wHy Do PeOpLe tHiNk YouR lYiNg...DaTs NoT fAiR tHiNkInG bOUt wHo A PeRsOn Is wItH Out KnOwInG yOu...
2006-10-08 04:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by krissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell some one your dad has no right touching you their and no right beating up your friend that is considered sexual harassment.
2006-10-08 01:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by malinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋