Every time i go over there she is rude and horrible annoying. One day i was over there and she said to me are you going to wrok today and i said no i have just called in sick and she goes "why you dont look sick, whats wrong with you, maybe if you put some shoes on you wouldnt get sick". Then the other day she said to me clean up the house and i said "no its not my mess" and she said yes it is you know it is. Then last night she said, we are having BBQ for dinner and there is plenty there and i dont want to eat with her coz she always says something to put me down so i said no thanks and she said "well you're just being anti social" and then another time she called me a snob !! My boyfriend knows that i hate her and that she is annoying but he will never say anything to her and i cant. I dont know what to do. I can never do anything right by her and now i hate seeing her.
2006-10-07 18:18:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have been together for a year now and i have been nice to her because if i am in her house i dont cant exactly say anything to her. My boyfriend knows how i feel and she is the same to him. I swear she has mental problems..
2006-10-07 18:24:01 · update #1
For rockinggb75, i actually woke up there and was sick so i called from there. i didnt call in sick and then go over there to have fun !
And for texasboy, dont call people lazy when you have no idea ! I am studying full time and working part time and see my boyfriend at night when i can. You shouldnt pressume anything !
2006-10-07 18:41:01 · update #2
My mother-in-law was the same way. She never said a nice word to me for 33 yrs. Then she died. I married her daughter anyway. I just ignored it. DLTBGYD = don't let the ***** get you down. Our tactic was to live in the same town (Chicago), far enough away that she couldn't drop in, but close enough to see her once a week or so for just an hour or so. Our best friends had the same prob and moved to New York. Then her mother came to visit for 2 weeks at a time. I couldn't have taken that.
Our daughter was engaged to a man who's mother was the same. She couldn't take it. She always asked me, "How did you put up with Grandma?" I told her the same thing. She broke up with him for that reason.l
If you marry a person, you marry their family.
2006-10-07 18:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By calling in sick and going over to her house, you have made a bad impression. When you call in sick, you don't go to your bofriend's house. You stay home and try to get well. This may not be the first bad sign you've given her. As far as the clean up comment, if you are over there a lot, you should help out. And, never try to make your boyfriend take your side against his Mom. That is his mother. You do not have the right to make him take your side. If he felt his mother was really in the wrong, he would have said something to her on his own.
2006-10-07 18:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try getting to know her better. Maybe if she thinks your interested in her and the family she will warm up to you. Your boyfriend should not disrespect his mother in front of you. He should maybe say something to her though in your defense in private with her, just have a talk about what is bothering you guys and maybe that will help. Sometimes it just takes some time and patience. Then again she maybe one of those people who just can't seem to treat anyone right that is dating her son. If that is the case, there is nothing you can do but suck it up if you want to continue the relationship with the boyfriend.
2006-10-07 18:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was living with my parents as a child and through my teen years, my mother always treated me like that. I was glad to get married and to move out.
She may have treated your b/f the same way throughout his life, and maybe this is why he can't come to say anything to her.
2006-10-07 18:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by LVieau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You in the same situation as me, why are boyfriend moms always trying to be all up your business? but it's hard to ignore, but all I have to say is hang on....... It's gonna be a bumpy ride... trust I'm going through the same thing, but I'm not trying to break up with him because of his mom...... so don't let the crazy lady get into your head....
2006-10-07 18:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Angel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's feeling jealous, insecured of losing her son's attention someday because of you. probably your boyfriend is her only son.
I hope things change when you decide to setttle or else, she'll be the worst Mother In Law in the world.
Just keep on making your bf aware of everything.
2006-10-07 18:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Solomon Grundy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants to make you go off on her so she can make her son break up with you. Just be really nice and ignore what she says she'll realize she's not getting to anyone but herself
2006-10-07 18:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try ignoring her, or invite your boyfriend over your house more instead of going over his a lot. Give short few word answers to her, like yes, no, thanks, and ok. If she insults you, just say ok. Eventually it might get her to back off if she realizes you dont give a crap what she thinks!
2006-10-07 18:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by shortee807 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then get your lazy butt out of her house. Tell your bf to give his momma a hug for me. She sounds like a stand up gal to me.
2006-10-07 18:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. End it with him because his mum will always be his mum and he can't change her
2. Be very polite and pleasant while inwardly ignoring her.
Your choice.
2006-10-07 18:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋