is there a way to control that.
Here are some situations that make me feel horny:
--When I am in the same room with my x-bf I get horny. Or just thinking about him. (like now) We never had sex. We (more him than me, I was real into his thing) were real touch feely. Ooo it drives me up a wall being in the same room with him. The only reason I still like him is the physical contact idea.
--When I joke around or talk about sexual/physical contact.
--When I am in sex-ed classes talking about it
--reading forums about sexual ****.
--reading books with a couple in it.
--watching tv with people making out
--listening to the song "Scotty Doesn't Know" by lustra
http://www.lyricstop.com/s/scottydoesntknow-lustra.html
--listening to the song "Animals"by nickelback
http://www.dapslyrics.com/display.php?sid=15954
--there is more but thinkin bout it is drivin me nuts
is there a way to control the feeling? if so how?
2006-10-07 17:37:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
But what can you do to control it at school or work? cuz I am only with my x at lunch
2006-10-07 17:40:29 · update #1
I am only fourteen. the feeling is annoying. I like masturbation but my wrists hurt(not from that from writing and typing and playing videogames).
2006-10-07 17:42:16 · update #2
I am not still touchy feely with him I just can't stand remembering that it felt good. He keeps asking me back. But I don't want a realationship based on sex
2006-10-07 17:46:27 · update #3
lol. ok hun, ANYONE would get horny off of "Animals" haha. i do everytime i hear it. i guess the only way to control your feelings is to think of something else, other than sex. think of a task you have to do later in the day, or about that fat old guy next door who always stares in your window (haha). the whole touchy flirty thing...theres not much you can do to stop the feeling as long as you keep touching him. Since your 14, its pretty normal to get horny all the time. Just masterbate a lot, you said your hand hurts, but there are other ways of doing it besides your fingers.
2006-10-07 17:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It must be hard and I feel for you. You can't control your feelings about your xbf, however think clearly about why you're not with him anymore. There has to be a reason you broke up. Write down your pros and cons and look at it with a realistic mind.
Obviously it was the sex that turns you on. There's go to be a guy out there that makes you feel the same way and he might just be nicer too and more attune with your feelings. Don't get back with him for just physical reasons, in the end you're the one that gets hurt. In the meantime you can pleasure yourself and fantasize about him without having to get involved and wait for the right guy that will come into your life. Sex is important in a relationship but after all is said and done you want someone steady and reliable and supportive, because if the guy isn't serious and loving, even the sex will get bad.
Good Luck to you.
2006-10-07 17:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way to control the feeling. The Buddha himself said that if there were another drive as strong as the sex drive, he never would have attained enlightment. I'd say enjoy the feeling as much as you can, maybe indulge in a bit of a fantasy, or just try to ignore it. Someone also suggested masturbation; don't laugh- it works. If you work off a bit of that energy in other ways, like self-love, you won't be quite as bothered as you would otherwise.
It will get easier, too. Your hormones are going nuts right now because they really, really want you to get pregnant. Eventually, they will settle down.
2006-10-07 17:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by random6x7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say is that youre living your sexual life with a "what if".
You say youve never had sex with him so you were left with that temptation and the "what if we would of had sex, what would it had been like?"
You need to either get serious and have sex with this dude or you need to move office or something cuz you are always going to have that mental picture of you and him.
Maybe you should think" what if I finally do it with him and it turns out to be a great dissapointment and im left hanging?" maybe that would help.
2006-10-07 18:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Elsi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to work it off. Play sports. Ride a bike. Jog or run. It is not healthy to dwell on sex that much. Find other kinds of books, movies, and TV.
2006-10-07 17:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Masturbation.
2006-10-07 17:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by apeystar 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get married. Then, if you're like the rest of the female population, you'll never want sex again.
2006-10-07 17:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by TrainerMan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there is always a way to learn control...ive become really good at it and i dont have any feelings anymore! im now a monotonous robot!
2006-10-07 19:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
distract your mind,dont even look at him,refrain at all costs.hold out for this is the best gift you can give your husband,your virginity.
2006-10-07 17:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by sassy brat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let it flow babe - use common sense when acting on it though.
2006-10-07 17:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Never M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋