Shh..I have a personal question about sex?

Question

This question may be answered better by men. I have been with my fiancee for a very long time and I am very sexually attracted to him. Whenever he is near me, his "body" responds. I am very adventrous and may just drag him off to the bathroom in the grocery store. Or initiate it going down the highway. I thought that everything was fine until he said that I was too demanding. This hurt my feelings. I do not understand, he is all over me. He says that he should initiate it sometime. I am so confused, our love life is fantastic. We are very active. I am trying to understand what he wants. Men help me out here.Please let me know what he is talking about? He says that he do not want to be less active. I am truelly confused! Right now he has called me four times to come to bed...Should I just start turning my back//

Answer 1

Yes, turn your back and bend over.

Answer 2

Honey,he's telling you what he wants,but you're not listening.And if you think you're listening,then you're not HEARING him.You've got a gift,a man that is comunicating with you.Sex is just as important to talk about before the wedding,as dicussing having children and how to raise them.To many people go into a marriage thinking everything will be different once we're married.If there is a problem before the wedding,guarenteed it will still be there afterwards.While you think your fiancee should be thrilled that he has a horney girl on his hands,that may not be All he wants.Everyones sexual wants and needs are different and you need to cool your jets a bit.I'm not trying to insult you,I'm just trying to get you to open your eyes and ears to what he's telling you.And one of the worst things you can do is to hold out sex when you don't get your way.You'll send him into the arms of someone that will listen to him.I'm wondering if you've been this way in all your relationships.If you have,then it's time to take a look at yourself and why the only way you feel loved is through sex.But honey,you can't always have your way,and you deliberty not going to him when he wants you is a very immature thing to do.Let him feel like the man he is,and let him take charge.There are ways that we women can iniciate sex and make him think he's the one that started it.You really are very lucky to have a man that can communicate,always keep that,it's a precious thing to have.And the bond between you will only get stronger.You sound very much in love,and I pray for you both all the happiness in the world. God bless you both.

P.S. when he's talking to you,hear him.Don't sit there thinking about what you're going to say next.Block out Everything and give him All your attention.

Answer 3

I think what he means is that he wants you to give him a chance to initiate it. Not that he doesn't want to have sex, but that maybe, if you'd waited 5 seconds longer in that hallway, he would have had the same idea as you. See what I mean?

He's trying to initiate it right now and you are on the computer!

Perhaps he isn't really as adventurous as you and your choice of location is making him uncomfortable. Maybe he wants to have just as much sex, but in a bed, not a grocery store bathroom.

ASK him exactly what he means by saying your are too demanding. I think you will find it is a different reason than what you first thought...

Answer 4

It's simple. HE wants to initiate the sex more than what he is now. That's all gther is to it. He's the kind of guy that believes that the guy does the chasing or initiating.

He probably doesn't mind you initiating it, but you probably do it so often that he feels like he has no 'say' in things. Like he's being dragged along by you, and that is what he has a problem with.

That is the reason.

Answer 5

In the normal everyday world, sometimes men want to be the one to initiate. It's sort of like a deep down need to "conquer" from our long past days as a caveman sort of thing, on the other hand some guys like to be seduced by the woman, it's kind of a thrill sometimes to be "wanted" in that way. Then there is the case of not wanting to "burnout" (which does happen sometimes) from too much intamacy. My best advice would be to "nip it in the bud" now and sit down and talk to your guy soon, find out exactly what the problem is before it gets out of hand. Be honest and open about it in your conversation with him to minimize any sort of missunderstanding in the future. Good luck.

Answer 6

Actually, you are about to lose your man, the simple reason is that you initiate sex more than he does and you are scaring him off and he doesn't know how to respond other than getting upset because he didn't lead.
Your sex maybe good, but he doesn't know how to (for lack of words) pop that coochie, he needs to learn how to make it sound as though that coochie is getting slapped.

If you lead and stay in control, then it wont be long before he's in bed before you or he's gonna stay out on the couch.

If its good, then he needs to think that its good because of him.

you will know when he is insecure, he will start blaming you for things, anything. this is due to his inability to lead, because you have taken that from him. Now you need to slow your roll and allow him to lead.

Answer 7

I was in a similar situation. I was told they thought they were the aggressive party. I told them just to forget out that. That they were FAR from being the aggresser.
Honestly it seems a little TOO much to be doing at every single POSSIBLE spot. In 20 or 30 year from now. If you and him are married is everything still going to be like that?

Answer 8

you might think that men hungry for sex all the time but we are not robots.
every man needs a break from the love life sometimes. in this case youre the on thats sex crazy, but thats not rare among women you just have to remeber that hes not on the same level as you.

Answer 9

If I am at his place I really would have liked and admired you ,Iwant my partener to be more like you. You do ignore him for a while then he will come to understand that how important was your act during the course of love making and then I think he may start loving you more

Answer 10

sounds like you just may have more energy than him and he gets tired more often or he loves your dominant ways but would like to be the dominant one more often... whatever it is you can find out more by talking to him rather than asking guys here... that great sex between you two can be even better if you are able to "talk" to each other about what you both want and like ~ just ask him what he means by saying you're too demanding

Answer 11

Sometime men like to make the first move. They want to feel like they have some control of the situation! Don't ignore him, make sure you tell him how you feel about what he said! You need to be honest with him and yourself! Go to bed!!!! Have fun!!!!! Let him lead! Good luck!