Why Do Some People Never Marry?

Question

Here is a list: Mental illness, narcissim, addiction(s), retarded, psychologically messed up, religion.....

Are there any more reasons why a person would NOT get married?

As For me, I choose to remain an Old Maid/Spinster.

Answer 1

Marriage isn't for everyone.... I do not think poorly of people who don't marry. In fact, I know some people who should never marry... they're the ones who make divorce lawyers rich.

Answer 2

For me, it's because of a simple lack of interest in that sort of outdated and kind of silly establishment. It's possible I just don't get it, that I'm just a cold sort of person who thinks the idea itself is pretty silly, considering how good the odds are that you'll be attracted to someone else, too, at some point, and drama entails. Marriage doesn't stop that at all, it just makes it worse. It's this weird thing based in assumptions of fidelity. But in practice, it doesn't seem that's how it works out a lot of the time.

Now that I think about it, even if I did marry, I would dread having an audience. That's one thing that always bothered me about it, that it was always a massively expensive and vast ceremony for lots of people to join in, which has always seemed just dumb to me. Wedding ceremonies always confused me as seeming counter-intuitive to the whole idea behind it. If it's two people pledging commitment to each other, what the heck is the goal behind having everyone related there to gawk? I'd have to do it in secret or not at all, even if I wanted to.

Answer 3

There have been 3 times I could have gotten married, and all 3 times, I knew it would be the WRONG thing to do.
I can continue the rest of my life unmarried and be just fine. If another proposal comes my way, I'll give it a thought. I don't need a ring on my finger to feel "complete".

And what I find really amusing? Divorced men I would date, would wonder what was "wrong" with me, why I had never been married. Some of these men had been married/divorced more than once, there was definitely more "wrong" with that!

Answer 4

I think it's because they feel secure enough. People actually get married because they feel insecure within. For some the security is already there so you don't actually need to get married. This is what I think. I'm only 17 yrs but this is what i feel. I've decided that I'm not gonna get married cause i feel extremely secure, confident and happy with the friends I have, and also marriage is very complicated and serious thing. It has alot of commitment involved as well.

Answer 5

WAS that a list of reasons people don't marry?!?! or was that a list of conditions that force people to marry.... im confused!! cause the men i've dated fit that profile. and if that is a list of why people never marry you need to wake up. that's a list of why people SHOULDNT marry, but not a list of why people never marry. come on you think a narcisst will actually not marry?? he needs someone to worship him and stroke his ego. psychologically ill people dont know they are psychologically ill!! and religion these days isnt a reason to not marry it's a reason to start wars of course, but not to avoid marraige. addiction? umm more and more men and women these days have a addiction to love, addiction to relationships, and addiction to sex. all these leading to marraige. you're gonna have to rephrase that question, its a stupid one. why do some people never marry.? you ask...hmm the ones who actually decide NOT to marry are the commitment phobics, or the geniuses who have figured the key to a happy life. but your list is not a list of reasons people never marry. your list is of people who have no business marrying, having children or even chatting online with the opposite sex!! ok i'm done venting...have a great evening, GOD BLESS.

Answer 6

well im 46 a 17 yr old i never could imagine staying w the same person forever i was sooooooooooo madly in love w my sons father long story short im so glad i didnt i give all my time into raising him and not having to answer to anyone i come and go as i please love it me and my son r best Friends when he is out of the house yes i would like to spend the rest of my life w someone real cool and then i can give him all my attention

Answer 7

Some people set their standards so high that they could never be attained by any individual. There's only so much a person can give without receiving at least some love/gratitude back.

Answer 8

There are a lot of people who love themselves too much to share themselves and devote themselves to others. This is not quite narcissism, but something that coupled with a low-self esteem results in not getting married. Everyone is capable of loving other people, sometimes you just have to broaden your horizons.

Answer 9

because people want the easy break away method if the relationship doesnt work out. no one seems to be wanting true committment anymore. if you are going to be together for years you might as well get the piece of paper that seals the deal too. why live in sin?

Answer 10

because some people don't need a piece of paper to tell them that they are together or because they were married once or twice or thrice before and don't want another divorce. or they can't get married because the law refuses them to or because marriage is stupid and pointless to them. or because now in this day and age marriage most likely will end in divorce.