I am a muslim and my bf is hindu.. we love each other alot n both our parents know abt it.. but my father likes to interfere in our relationship. He is always giving us some ridiculous house rules which we find annoying.. We talked to him abt it but there is no change in his character.. In fact it kinda worsen and he started to play mind games with us. As parents, i know they are worried and want the best for me.. But i can't convice them, he is the ONE for me.. Now me n my bf decides to go for a civil marriage as my dad will not agree to it.. We have made plans but i need to leave the house.. I don't know how to leave the house secretly and quietly.. I don't want my mom to worry either.... I thought of leaving a note and juz leave.... U think i should do it? My dad has many plans for me but NONE is for my future life..
2006-10-07 17:28:35 · 5 answers · asked by SyaKiRa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Running away from parent's home with your B/F may sound romantic in novels but in reality it's definitely wrong.
Your parents had brought you up from an infant and I'm sure they had made many sacrifices for you along the way. To abandon them at this point in time with your B/F don't seem right and is very selfish. You might not like what I say. How would you feel if you're a parent later in life and your daughter runs a way from home?.
I'm sure that if you talk to your parents calmly and respectfully on your strong feelings for your B/F and your desire to start a family on your own, they would likely accede to your request. Tactfully hint to them that you might have to take that drastic step of leaving home without their blessing if they stubbornly reject your appeals, Keep trying and do not loose your cool. But never leave home without their blessing. You might regret it later in life. Good Luck.
2006-10-07 22:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Teh halia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. it is your life. If you really love this guy and want to spend the rest of your life with him, then just do it. Second, just tell them if they don't like the decision that you have made, then they can accept it, or move on with their life without you. They will accept it if you just stand up to them and tell them how you feel and how things are going to be. Don't let anything or anyone come between you and your true love. I know that your parents are important to you, but it's your future!!!
2006-10-07 17:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? marriage is a big step. are you sure you're ready? maybe you should finish college first. if you leave your family for him, you will be ruining you life and all chances for happiness. if you're parents don't agree with the marriage, then they'll always resent you and hate him. Muslim women are not allowed to marry non-Muslims. DO you really think they will somehow accept him? you're fooling yourself if you think they will. you're in for a miserable life - sorry, but it's true.
if you don't agree with your dad's plans, just tell him NO. don't agree to marrying anyone until you have your education and are mature.
2006-10-07 21:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Mustafa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough to think for your own future, if He's really the man you decide to spend the rest of your life with,then you need to talk and explain to your parents specially your father.
Maybe you can ask your mom or seek help from your relatives,ask them to help to talk to your dad.
Running away from home will not help you to solve the problem but it'll add more problem.
2006-10-08 16:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by eZY jOHn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to them it is very common nows a day muslim eat pork singh without turban, some thing like that but pls don't leave your family and parent if not you will regret later and made your BF a sinful man may be just hint to them if they don't accept they will lost you and give them sometime.
2006-10-07 19:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by Asst Team Leader 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋