She is 18 yrs old and graduated in May, and immediately moved in with some guy I did not even realize she knew. He is 25 yrs old, seperated and has a 3 yr old child. Today, she asked me if she could clean my house so she could get money from me to pay their water bill. Would you let her do it? She claims she cannot find a job. We live in a very rural area. Her boyfriend has a DUI and no drivers license and his mother drives him 25 miles to work every day. My daughter makes fun of me because I told her she cannot afford to smoke cigarettes.
This whole situtation makes me sick. I do not trust her anymore. She has screwed up her whole life. Instead of going to college she has chosen to shack up in a 2 bedroom trailer with a skank who is still married. She has no car, no job, nothing. What would you do about her request to clean my house for money and everything in general. I am so upset.
2006-10-07 17:24:00 · 5 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her to get a job or you will have nothing to do with her. Don't give her the job and don't give her any money. Be firm.
2006-10-08 00:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not give her money or let her clean your house for money. She has gotten herself into a bad situation, and if you help support her and her boyfriend, she will not learn, and things will get worse.
I would consider her situation abusive, as this older man has chosen to mess up your daughter's life. If he cared for her, he would not do this. Your daughter is not a victim, though; she chose the situation voluntarily.
Ask her whether, if her daughter were to do as she is doing with a man just like her boyfriend, would she be happy about it? Maybe this will break through her denial.
2006-10-07 17:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 00:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by aziz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today kids make all sorts of dumb moves and as parents our love keeps bailing them out.
Eventually though you have to cut off the help and play the mean card and stop talking to them if you have any hope they figure out stuff and get their act together.
If we stop coming to the rescue most finally get on thier own feet. I agree you have every right to be mad and angry but she has to make her own mistakes too.
Stick to your guns- tell her what you expect from her and that what she is doing is not acceptable and you wont help her ruin her life. Then you have to do what you say and not help, don't take her calls etc or it will eat away at you. It is not easy but I think it is the best way, eventually they figure things out and take care of themselves or fail.
2006-10-07 17:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you did your best to raise all your boys and girls rite but let them grow up and learn about life as we all have /live and learn ! a bought less is the best one help those that help their self GOD BESS GOOD LUCK
2006-10-07 18:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by runninglate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋