I am in college its my 2nd year in there..I thought I had good friends but they turned out to say things about me behind of my back..they started saying i was chasing sum guy to go out with him while that guy is only a friend of mine..he has changed he barely talks to me..
how to deal with this rumor and with the ppl who started talking about us..and also how to do deal with that guy!!
2006-10-07 17:17:51 · 12 answers · asked by rosa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You confront the rumor by going to the source and confronting that person about spreading the rumor and the guy you try to talk to him and if it doesn't work don't worry~~~~You have your college life to fulfill
2006-10-07 17:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that guy was your friend, then perhaps you should be talking to him about this situation, to clear the matter and get an understanding that you are a friend of his, nothing more.
My question to you is:
How could you and he let rumors end you friendship. If you were friends, then it wouldn't matter what the people say. Beside, you can't stop people from saying what they want to say.
The both of you have to learn to be the better person and allow your friendship to grow by sticking together and the talk will stop, because people will see that it nothing more than that and should your friend find a girl friend, then you would be friends with her as well.
you got to learn to grow your mind........ there is another world out and away from where you are, that will eat the two of you alive.
My words to you is:
As a child, you learned to play checkers, well out here in the real world, the games is chess, except its not played on the board and there are many players in the game and whether you want to or not, your in -- it all about strategy --- your move
If you are a religious person, read your good book, but I can tell you how to get to heaven --- its simple
Turn right and keep straight.
2006-10-07 17:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by WOODSAK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot control what others do or say, but you certainly can control your own response. Have integrity like a rock. This happened to me at work until I learned the hard way to be upfront. When people start to gossip to me I tell them that they need to got to that person and not talk to me about it. If I hear that someone has a problem with me, I just say that it must not be too bad of a problem if they can't talk to me face to face! You have to develop a reputation of integrity and forthrightness to protect yourself in the future. There will always be someone talking behind your back and you can't stop it.
2006-10-07 18:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by my2cents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what i think...i think you should laugh...and go and have a good time. Who cares if there talking about you and that guy wont talk to you. Talk to his b/f im sure he wont like that very much. As for your so called friends...who cares about them. Rumors are always gonna be around and there will probably be a new one in a week. Im sure you know it's called GOSSIP. Dont worry about it and i know it sucks, but it's happens to alot of people. Best thing just laugh, and as for the guy if he wants to be an asshole...just talk to his friend. ;)~ goodluck and hope you feel better
2006-10-07 17:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by blkhawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to deal with your friend is to have a talk with him and tell him what is going on. i find it hard to believe he would give you the silent treatment because someone told him you were after him. the one being chased usually knows they are being chased. the best way to deal with the rumor is to not deal with it. if you try to defend yourself you will look guilty as charged. keep your dignity and class and keep silent. if someone ask you about the rumor ask them why they want to know. then ask them what they think. people are going to think what they want to think no matter what. most of the time they want to believe the worst of others because it makes them feel superior. as far as the people that started the rumor i would just ignore them and find other friends. the real you will shine through and the people that are your friends will realize what kind of people the rumor spreaders are. people usually get what they deserve and what goes around usually comes around. the best part is they get theirs in the end and you have the satisfaction of knowing you kept you cool and they did it to themselves.
2006-10-07 17:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what ppl say about you. I know what your saying though i was there to in school. Most girls do this and its called jealousy. Just ignore them or tell them they are so childish. People need to for real grow up. But good luck and don't listen to what they say obviously your better than that or they wouldn't make such a big deal out of it
2006-10-07 17:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just go on about my business and make new friends because if they are willing to talk that way about you when you were "friends" than chances are if you attempt a retaliation or confrontation they would just increase the level of rumors about you, as for the guy, try explaining to him that you really did not feel this way about him and that you apologize for how his name came up in the rumors and that you would like to remain his friend, if he doesn't accept, he wasn't worth your time to begin with, and if he does, he's a true friend
2006-10-07 17:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl those friends of yours aren't friends at all. ditch them and make new friends. as for the people spreading the rumours, ignore them cause there's nothing really u can do about it. and last but obviously not least TALK to the guy who was your friend and explain that he's just a friend. If he won't stop to talk then follow him for a bit and just yell at the fool to listen or just yell at him "You're only ever be my friend, nothing more!". if that fails then he's the one not willing to make up the friendship.
2006-10-07 17:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore the rumors...dont try to deny or approve them b/c that's just going to keep telling people that they can keep spreading rumors about you and YOU WILL CARE. you want to send them the message that you don't care if they spread rumors about you because ultimately you don't care what they think. and you shouldn't care what they think anyway. get involved with an organization and find some new friends, and then slowly hang out with your old friends less and less. if they're spreading rumors about you then they're not your friends, they're just trying to bring you down.
2006-10-07 17:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just icnore all them! Im going through them at the moment also!
2006-10-07 17:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋