I really love my husband but is it okay if he runs to the strip club a lot?

Question

I love my husband to death and I know he loves me too. But ever since this guy at his job started dating a striper he goes to the strip club a whole lot. and all of the sudden he says that he has no freedom, which he does. So tonite we had a cuddle/sitting a home watching a movie date and next thing I know his buddy calls and he runs. I don't know if i should be worried he barley talks to me anymore and is annoyed by me all the time.
the only thing that has been good latley is sex.
i even told him that every time that he chose not to go to the strip club he could have anal sex with me wich I hate but he still chooses to go what should i do. I love my husband and I want to save my marriage.

Answer 1

I would be worried your husband she jump when you speak not his friend and especially not to a strip club. Wake up you have got to know what goes on at those things.

Answer 2

Strip clubs are not for married men, Period. It is disrespectful to you that he leave you home and alone to go and play in places like that.

Propositioning him with anal sex when you honestly hate it is a clear sign of how desperate you feel lin this situation.

If you have been honest about your feelings, and he continues on with his friend, then he has made his decision. Make yours. If he knows that you are serious, he may make the right choice, if not, then there is certainly a bigger problem than you are aware of. Either way, seek out counseling. You don't need to offer him your bum as an exchange for the respect you deserve. You don't need to degrade yourself by accompanying him to the clubs. Start counseling on your own if need be, and consider the advice given there.
Why can't he and his buddy come to your house or someplace decent where his gf can come, and you can hang out as a group? It is definitely fishy. Don't ignore it hoping it will get better on its own!

Answer 3

First of for the person who made the comment about anal sex causing aids is an idiot..Nothing in your feces from your body causes aids...Pick up a medical book before you make a blanket statement of something you have no knowledge of ( The worst thing about this web service)

Now to answer your question.

I think you already know what is going on. Test him.. ask him if you can go and see what he says..I personally never saw the benefit in paying for something you can get for free..I think strip clubs are retarded..you need to put your foot down and tell him if he doesn't stop then your leaving..He obviously doesn't care because if he did he would put your feelings first and would go out with you..also, get out know before you get some STD if he is sleeping with strippers or anyone for that matter you might not be safe..You have to put your foot down or his behavior is gonna continue..a dog will continue to run until you choke the sh*t out of him with his chain...Good Luck

Answer 4

First off, I would never be alright with my husband going to a strip club with and of his buddies. I think that it is time for you to worry. When the husband stops communicating with his wife and stays gone a lot, there are the most important signs that something is going on. I hate to say it, but it is true. You need to tell him exactly how you feel. If he doesn't listen to you, have you ever thought about folloing him. Get one of your friends cars and follow him. If he goes into the strip club, you go in too, but stay out of sight. You might get a lot of your answers then. Don't fret over it and worry yourself over it. If there is something going on, move on with your life. You're probably too good for him anyway.!!

Answer 5

First of all, anal sex is the main cause of AIDS. When the anal membranes tear, feces goes into the bloodstream and causes AIDS. Sounds like your marriage is pretty one sided. I would look elsewhere for a guy friend to confide in and talk to when your husband goes to the strip club. Maybe a little competition is what he needs to realize you aren't going to sit home and wait for him forever. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

DANGER DANGER DANGER

You really need to get him away from this scenario as much as possible, but don't degrade yourself either to do so.

I hate this (because it seems there are so many)..... but see if you can drag him to a counsellor, start doing some consistent events together and keep him away from the stripper filth, sounds like he is getting addicted, not to mention money wasted on that junk.

Try getting his attention a bit by not being home when he gets back next time, take a time out and tell him this will stop NOW!

Answer 7

All the signs are there. I think you just don't want to admit the truth. You should just show up or have a girl that he doesn't know go in and see how he is when you aren't around. It might seem devious but it's not like he's not doing something to deserve it.
Don't hit yourself in the head and wonder why you have a headache. It's apparent that you care enough to save your marriage but does he?

Answer 8

i am no pro on this but i would just watch what he does maybe he is just haning out with his buddy. but he might also be enjoying the strippers. try being all sexy like a stripper and doing something erotic and see if that attracts him to you more.and convince him that you are better than a stripper and try to make him not want to got here as much. but i have a problem with pissing off my other half so my advicemay anger him but take it in consideration and if you think it will help then give it a shot and see if it works.

Answer 9

Maybe he's just into strippers, but I would be concerned. His friend's stripper girlfriend may just have a stripper friend that's interested in your hubby. I think the fact that the sex has been great lately is a red flag (especially if it is unusually so). If he is cheating on you, sleeping with you may be more exciting and dangerous to him. You need to have a serious talk with him and find out what's going on.

Answer 10

it won't be long before your husbands friend is gonna hook him up with one of her stripper friends, it's all about the $and if your man has it he will get one. The good thing is he is still coming home to u it's when he stops coming home that u have to worry men are visually stimulated all they gotta see is a thong and well u know the rest. get sexy girl, give him a reason to look at u.