my son is only 3yrs old and he cries everytimes his dad side of the family picks him up his dad has vistation?

Question

rights but is there anything i could do, he does not help me at all with him all he does is give me trouble if i was to ask him for something for his son,child support till this day is looking for him.. if my son cries the next they pick them up would i be able to say no to them for my child well being. or should i just let it go. my son be acting so different when his with his dad it takes him a very long time for him just to talk, when he with me he runs his mouth they pick him every other weekend and my son allways saying he doesnt want to go ....what should i do please help

Answer 1

I would say that you need to look for signs of abuse. Changes in personality should not be overlooked, and you should not turn a blind eye to the possibility that the boy's father or the father's family is doing some sort of harm to your son.

Keep an eye on him. You can take him to the doctor and voice your concerns. Your doctor can look over your son for signs of physical abuse. If it's emotional or sexual abuse, the evidence won't be as obvious. You can talk with your local health department or even ask your doctor's office for some referrals to places that deal with possible child abuse. You owe it to your son to have him checked out. You could literally save his life.

Answer 2

As far as I knowwwww, if support enforcement is looking for his daddy then you obviously don't know where his daddy lives or you'd give support enforcement the address right? Okay, so if you don't know where baby daddy lives, then we can assume daddy isn't using his visitation, you're letting his family use it instead. If this is the case, stop letting them use the visitation. They can come visit your son in your home with you there. You can moderate the level of interaction this way. The visitation agreement with the court has nothing to do with his side of the family. Just you and him and your child, period. Clearly your child is not wanting to go, not that I give too much creedence to what a toddler wants and doesn't want but if you have your doubts that this is a good thing, don't send your kid there. If baby daddy's parents are going to get in a snit over it, they can take you to court. In the meantime, offer them visitation in YOUR home for a few hours each day of the weekend. Maybe you'll spot the cause of your son's anxiety and maybe your son will simply lose his anxiety over time. Also, if baby daddy IS getting visitation with the court, find out where he's living and where he's working and give that to support enforcement so that they can start getting money from him. A man who does not support his children is NO MAN AT ALL. And if the address that baby daddy has registered with the court is not the correct address for him, file that complaint with the court too. You're supposed to have an accurate address and phone number for him. Make sure they have it too.

Answer 3

In a case like this u should stop him from going over there because it is not like he takes care of your son, it seems to me if he doesn't do nothing for him u shouldn't let him go to see him at all tell him if wants to see him tell him to pay some support money, and you'll think about it. By the way I have baby daddy and I started his *** out on child support right away. But, if your son cries everytime he goes over there then something just might be going on over there you just need to stop him from going over, especially if he's crying that is so scaring. So please take this advice. Please watch ur kid emotions and that is another way you can tell.

Answer 4

Honey I hope your son is not being abused by his father or the relatives. Seems funny that he would cry after and act funny after each visitation. I think I would try to check into it and find out what is going on. I hope I am wrong about this for your childs sake. God Be with you and your child. I know it is good to keep an open relationship with the other parent,but it just don't seem right to me. God be with you both for ever. You might want to ask your son why he doesn't want to go to his fathers. God I hope i'm wrong here.

Answer 5

...it's hard to tell what is going thru the mind of your child. he is very confused right now too...wonders why daddy and mommy are not together..maybe feels guilty about being with dad..or maybe something more...There are play therapists you child might need to go see. Someone who is an expert in helping very young children "speak" about what is bothering them.

There are so many reason's why you child may be having troubles.

.Go to your Dr's..and ask for referrals to see a professional..for your son's and your own well being.

Answer 6

Let it go. This always happens when couples split. If you make a big deal out of it it will become a big deal.
Enjoy your son while he is young and needs you soon they are grown and gone!
Allow your child to be with ALL his family members he needs them too. His father is very important to him even if you think he is a jerk.
LET it GO!
Enjoy your life and your child ,let your child enjoy his father.
I may hurt but it hurts worse when you fight about it.

Answer 7

There is not to much you can do, if there is anyway to talk to his dad do so for your sons sake. Either way make sure you are talking positive about his dad because if you are talking negative then he won't want to go. Tell him he will be ok and make it as nice as possible.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

maybe he does not see then enough for him to get used to them. May you should let them come around more.

Answer 10

for your son to grow up well-rounded, he should get to know all his relatives. as long as they don't give you crap. he is just crying because he is not used to them.