He is so mean, he didn't even want me to go out with him and the other couples, they went bowling and i'm at home right now. Don't you think he should have stayed home with me too? It's not fair, i never get to do anything. I hate him so much, because he doesn't care about me, he just does whatever he wants.
2006-10-07 16:42:03 · 25 answers · asked by Girlish 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have no sitters whatsoever, and i have no friends, cause i just moved from the east coast to the middle of nowhere. So i have no relatives or anything where i am, it's only his family.
2006-10-07 16:46:57 · update #1
He knows exactly how i feel, but he doesn't care, he does this alot. So yes, i really do hate him.
2006-10-07 16:49:53 · update #2
No one understands me, i just feel like crying, i cry so much that i'm driving myself crazy. My husband makes me so depress and he knows it, but he never shows me any love. The only time he would come show me that he cares is when he needs money, food, and sex.
2006-10-07 16:55:50 · update #3
Ask a neighbor to look after your kids for a couple of hours and go to the bowling alley he is at and show up. I'd stay back at the sidelines a minute or two and watch what is going on. You may find something very usuful to your "case". If you' don't have vehicle, ask a neighbor (to stay with you) to take you and the kids. Make it a wive's and the kids night bowling or something. Only you are stopping you. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-07 16:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by afafae25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is tell him how you feel, and assert yourself. Hate is a strong word, especially since you loved him when you married and had children. Try not to let your kids hear the discussion when he gets home, and make sure they don't hear you say you hate him. Kids take things literally and will believe you thoroughly hate him. That hurts forever.
Find a sitter for a night, and talk to him. Even argue with him if you have to. But that's really all that you can do.
I hope he listens to how hurt you feel. Good luck.
2006-10-07 16:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Wanda W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the situation.It is not that simple when there are kids involved.You are married with the kids.What you can do is the same thing.Turn the table around.If you cook clean,wash for him.......STOP.Exclude him from your family.Get him watch you and kids have really good time.That makes my husband really jelous.My husband never went out without me.It's just he is very cheap and controling,and i hate that.And on the end STOP sleeping with him.If he cheats,then you have a really good reason to get divorse.I am praying for something like that to happen.
2006-10-07 16:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by avavu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not fair...he should have hired a babysitter and taken you with. Or let you go do something else if you didn't want to go bowling. Next weekend, tell him its his turn to watch the kids and you go out with the couples. Have a great time...and don't take no for an answer from him.
2006-10-07 16:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by rcpaden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is divorce.....believe me I have been in the exact same situation and put up with it for 12 years. My ex NEVER wanted to spend time with me, even up to the date of our separation we never did things together as a couple or as a family. He always had more interest in going out with his buddies. Me I was nobody.....I was the mother of his kids...and should remain at home by myself.
I was depressed, gained a ton of weight from just sitting around at home. All I had was my kids. I wanted adult company from either my ex or other adults but it never happened.
Finally I got to my break point...he was out one evening and while he was gone I tossed all his belongings out the front door and when he got home I told him to get out !
I made new friends, and started getting out, now I have met an incredible man who loves me and my kids and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I didn't think I would ever find this kind of happiness. I was wrong......believe me....life does go on.
Good Luck.
2006-10-08 15:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a very inconsiderate thing for him to do. If you have a car take the kids to the bowling alley and leave them with him and go out by yourself and make some new friends.
2006-10-07 16:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're understandably upset.
I would be too.
Getting angry with him, and saying that you hate him, doesn't (and won't ever) change anything.
Maybe he is unaware of how you feel. Maybe you could sit him down and tell him how leaving you at home, alone, makes you feel. If he values and loves you, he will do whatever it takes, to ensure that you don't feel that way again.
2006-10-07 16:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by Medicated Harmony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should have stayed home or brought you and the kids.
Sounds like a bit of a manipulative situation, seek some counselling advice on the side.
2006-10-07 16:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by Keanu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should definetly have stayed home with you and told the couple that him and you could not do go out today, especially if it is both of your's couple friends. Just talk to him about it and work it out, dont go as far as saying u hate him because you probably have not mentioned that u dont like it to him yet.
2006-10-07 16:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by KillaX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, I'm sorry that he left you at home! I wouldn't necessarily say he should stay home with you, but I'd say you guys should get a good babysitter, and you should have gone out WITH him. He shouldn't go out all the time, and leave you at home... that's just not very respectful of him.
2006-10-07 16:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋