I divorced my wife after 17 years of marriage, and 5+ years of counseling. I've remarried and had an incredibly blessed relationship. One church we attended said me and my 2nd wife are going to hell unless we divorce.
Can that possibly be right?
2006-10-07 16:25:13 · 25 answers · asked by JustAGuy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no. you are happy. enjoy.
2006-10-07 16:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not right. Depending on how you look at it, the Bible doesn't allow for remarriage after divorce (that would be considered adultery- since you'd still be 'married' to your first wife in the eyes of God). But, considering that you are already remarried, another divorce certainly won't make things right!
I'm glad your current marriage is working well-- be glad for that, and try to live according to what the bible says from now on. As for that church that damned you to hell unless you divorce-- they REALLY don't have the authority to determine whether you'll go to hell for that, and giving you advice like that (rather than helping you become closer to God in your current situation) shows they don't really know the word of God.
Don't let that scare you from going to church again! Just find one that preaches the true message.
2006-10-07 16:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by catwomanmeeeeow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so it's been 8 years since you've asked this question. I noticed everyone that replied to you said no. I hate to say it, but they are all wrong. If you are still "married" to the second wife, you are in what is called legalized adultery. The scriptures state the remarriage is adultery, while the covenant spouse is still alive. When Jesus told them this, the disciples were so shocked that they said it was better to never marry at all. John the Baptist lost his head over divorce and remarriage.
Scriptures state remarriage is adultery. Adultery is sin, which is listed as one of the sins that will keep people out of heaven. People claim it's ok to stay in the adulterous marriage when you ask Jesus for forgiveness. There is one thing wrong with that. Repent means to confess the sin and give it up. So, you have to give up the adulterous marriage if you want to be in right standing with God. It's all about obedience to His Word.
One Flesh...Genesis 2:23-24, Matthew 19:4-6, Mark 10:6-9, Ephesians 5:31
Do Not Separate-Do Not Divorce...Malachi 2:14-16, 1 Cor 7:10-11, 1 Cor 7:39
Remarriage is Adultery...Matthew 5:31-32, Matthew 19:9, Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Romans 7:2-3
Adulterers will not go to Heaven...1 Cor 6:9-10, Hebrews 13:4
2014-04-12 17:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Baptist pastor and can assure you that that is not true according to God's Word that the Bible does not teach that. God's plan from the beginning was one man and one woman. Jesus answered this question when he was asked. (read Matthew 5:31-32) God permitted man to divorce under some circumstances due to the hardness of their hearts. In God's plan there is His Perfect will (no divorce) and His permissive will (divorce for sexual sins - fornication). Also, one question that could answer your question is: Why did Jesus say to the woman at the well she could have eternal life when she had already had five husbands and was at that time living with some who was not her husband. (Read John 4). I must say I believe the Bible teaches that we should acknowledge divorce as sin that needs to be confessed (1John 1:9). Once confessed put it under the blood of Christ and serve Him. You are not going to hell just because you are divorced. I would find a different church.
2006-10-07 16:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Wuki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't listen to all that religious garbage....too many uptight religious freaks condemn people for everything from how they look to what they wear, their sexuality and even the fact that they have had to get a divorce....I am sorry but if there is truly a God I would like to think that He is a loving, understanding God. You tried to make your marriage work.
Life is too short to spend your life miserable, not to mention how your ex-wife felt during that time. The fact that you were lucky enough to find another woman who makes you happy does not mean you deserve to go to hell. It just means that you finally found the right person you were really meant to be with.
Don't listen to other people. Listen to your heart, spend the time you have left on Earth loving your wife and being happy in your marriage. There is far too much unhappiness in the world as it is. Don't allow others' opinions to affect your life and happiness.
2006-10-07 16:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never bought into that lie. You won't go to Hell just because you got divorced. Besides, God forgives you of all your sins if you let him in your heart. That doesn't mean you should go out and be a murderer but it does mean that little things like divorce will be forgiven. And with the divorce rate what it is now, everyone would be doomed if that were true.
2006-10-07 16:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! it's not. I believe that God can forgive anything. That's the purpose of his grace. Besides why would God want you to tear up another family with divorce? Two wrongs don't make a right. Stay where you are, find a new church and ask God for forgivness.
2006-10-07 16:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by sandysstyles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife are not going to hell. God wants us to all be happy in life and find love. Best thing for you to do is sit down with your wife and read your bible for the answers that you need. That church is basicly telling you to do the same thing that it says you are going to hell for in the first place.
2006-10-07 17:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One Church? Do they have a hotline to God, where they alone can speak for Him? Are they the only ones with the right answers?
Sounds like it's time to get a new church.
2006-10-07 16:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of church was that? no you're not going to hell. theorectically speaking (i know i spelled that wrong, what d'ya want? i gots me a louziannah edumacation. ;) ) the only way you go to hell is to not accept jesus as your savior. that's it. all the other stuff, its easily forgiven. I'm baptist, btw, not cathloic, and i'm not sure how all that pennace stuff goes for them. but i was told you can even procure a divorce and still be catholic if you have the right situation.
i think what you really want to know is when the other shoe is going to drop since you're finally happy. my advice, don't borrow trouble.
2006-10-07 16:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by kajunprincezz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just jealouse
you are happy correct, then tell the person to get lost
you will not go to hell, God does not condemm but we human do
since you have gone to counseling that mean you have know your weaknest and now God know that you deserve hapiness
and he has find someone for you (your new wife)
So enjoy everyday with her stop listen to people who have nothing better to do
Good luck
2006-10-07 16:44:21 · answer #11 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋