My jelously problem hurts my bf, and me too. I don't know how to not let it get to me. what are somethings i can do?
2006-10-07 16:13:04 · 8 answers · asked by Lauren W 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This has nothing to do with your boyfriend. You have to learn to love yourself. Work on forgiving yourself for things you beat yourself up over and learn to accept that you're a wonderful person.
Once you're okay with who you are, you will stop doubting that others can love you unconditionally (or questioning why they do). When that happens, the jealousy will disappear.
People are only mirrors of what we like or don't like about ourselves. Good luck.
2006-10-07 16:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel confident in yourself, and stop trying to control all of the situations around you, once you realize that your bf loves you, and is a free individual, and could be with whom ever he chooses, and that the person he chose to be with was you, then you can at very least take comfort in that simple fact.
If you continue, all you will do is push him away. please stop.
Be proud of yourself, and find some happiness in other things which you love also, then when you are not together, you can focus your attention on the other things. get a life.
2006-10-08 05:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by Thoughtfull 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel good about yourself. You dont have to be good when compared to others but you be the best of what you can be. Believe that everyone is serving their purpose and you dont have to compare yurself with others when you have your own role to play. Believe that God has the best for you and also he has given all the potential to be the best. Believe you are the best and your life would become better. Anyone else life is not yours and anyones experience is not yours. If you could learn from others fine or else just leave it aside. Feel good about yourself
2006-10-08 01:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by vlikeme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to talk to a coucelor or therapist who can teach you coping skills or behaviours to counteract your jealousy. It is a very good first step that you recognize that the problem lies with you and not your bf. Take that next step and contact someone who can help you change these self destructive behaviours.
2006-10-07 23:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Star G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little jealousy means that you care for some one and they should look at it that way. A good looking strange woman saying hi and trying to talk to your bf should give you a little pang if you care. Get a boyfriend who acts in a way that does not make you overly jealous and when you do get jealous, he appreciates it, reassures you, and does not criticize you because he cares for you.
2006-10-07 23:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well jealousy is a normal feeling especially V gals ): well, V only jealouse when V think that that person is better than us.....so...."THINK UR THE BEST"...Every day stand in front of the mirror & say "I am the BEST"...YEAH & jst feel the change):....SIA...):
2006-10-07 23:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by cool_kita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw that. Listen, many experts will tell you this "trusting someone is stupid" that doesn't mean be mean to them for being hit on, but don't allow them into situations that they can cheat on you. I personally like my wife being like that. we keep each other in check. you need to feel like that sometimes. Its more important to learn what makes you so jealous and work through it with a compromise.
2006-10-07 23:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to work on your self esteem. If you feel better about yourself you will feel more secure in your relationship.
2006-10-07 23:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by carolinatinpan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋