I wonder what people think of me at first opinion. I'm physically attractive, but I'm 36, divorced with a 5 year old and a 1½ year old by two different fathers. I'm living with my parents for financial reasons and I drive an 11 year old car. I've got a college degree, but have a so-so job (no money, no credit). Would I appeal to anyone? Basically all I have going for me is my appearance - not much else to offer, financially speaking... Could someone fall in love with me despite the baggage? Or is it more likely that I'll be alone? I could handle being alone, but being in love is really nice and I would so love to be loved again...
2006-10-07 16:03:01 · 11 answers · asked by gailziggy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, two other men thought you were all that at one point, if you had their kids, so, YES, I think someone could fall in love with you now. When you're in love, you tend to overlook the baggage.
As long as you APPEAR that you're together at first, that would help. He'll think you not bringing him home is because of virtue, not 'rents.
And mention in passing at first that you have two kids, and keep them in the background. He'll think you're protecting them until you view him as worthy. Leave out the different fathers until months later.
And we have an 11 year old car because we're cheap, so don't worry about that. Good luck!
2006-10-07 16:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you don't have much baggage if you ask me. If you meet a man your age or older who is also divorced then chances are they have at least one child as well so I wouldn't even worry about that part. If you have a college degree then perhaps you should put it to use and find a better job. Everyone gets into a rut sometimes. I don't think you will have that big of a problem getting out of it or finding someone!
Good Luck
2006-10-07 16:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I at least don't think you have too much baggage and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Everyone goes through hard times and has issues; someone who loves kids and maybe even has there own would be great for you. Many people have had to move back home at sometime in their life, so I don't think it's as big a deal as in the past-if your charming, attractive, fun-loving and most importantly, honest about your situation, I'm sure you'll have no trouble finding a great guy-good luck-i hope you find him! =)
2006-10-07 16:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffylope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you put too much importance on appearance. if you are a good person at heart, you will be desirable. what you have in the way of material things should not matter. you might want to try to find a better job so you dont feel so "needy" about having a man. your description smacks of "victim" and that is unattractive. you must first learn to like yourself and get away from that "poor me" attitude. be proud of what you have, 2 healthy happy children and your health. no man is looking for a woman of means to support him so your personal financial status is not important unless you cant manage money and are wasteful. you appeal to me, but i am older.
2006-10-07 16:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very unlikely that you will live out your life alone. Believe it or not, there are guys out there who do not care how old your car is, or what the parentage of your children is.
There will be guys that just want an interesting, thoughtful woman that they can get along with, and depend on...someone with a good sense of humor (defined as one that matches their own), and having that quality that makes you glad to come home after work. They are out there...but it may take a bit to find one.
2006-10-07 16:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you would be more attractive to a better quality man if you took charge of your career, stopped dating losers, and used a more reliable form of birth control. A really top-notch man might find your lack of motivation and reliance on looks a turn-off, but a loser wouldn't care.
2006-10-07 16:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey wats up im good financially but besides that i would luv a hot 36 year old
2006-10-07 16:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a parents without partners , they won't consider you as low as you are feeling about yourself. and it is what you have to offer a person not what you have in life.
2006-10-07 16:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by kierstead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a woman that needs help,good luck,im not the one you need babe.
2006-10-07 16:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by likeablerabbit_loose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give me a call, and im sure love will do its thing...
2006-10-07 16:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋