Dated for many years... 3 months after marriage he is really getting on my nerves? During those years of dating I matured alot, but this man has got me acting like i did when i was 22--off the chain--- I don't want to act like this--it serves no purpose...
2006-10-07 16:00:58 · 14 answers · asked by Tajay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There could be a few common reasons why his behavior has changed since you were married. He may feel more comfortable to express who he really is, or he may feel that he is safe to act as he pleases because you are locked into something, he may just be stressed and unable to handle reality, or it may be that the marriage falls short of expectations. Not that you have done anything wrong, but sometimes people have high expectations for marriage and when they wake up and realize this is the same person they have been dating, they are dissapointed. Kinda buyers remorse deal. And maybe, you are feeling a bit this way, too.
It sounds like you have grown apart. If you are both serious about the marriage, then you can work on it. If you feel that he is making you regress, this is a particularly difficult situation. Old patterns of behavior are hard to break but not impossible. Think of the ways that you can both give each other what you need, define your goals and make common ones, figure out what kinds of activities you can enjoy and share together. Women tend to mature faster. As long as he is willing to put in the work with you, you can get through it.
2006-10-07 16:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by JustTalking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they think they have you and your not going anywhere, let him know, if he wants to keep a loving relations ship ,
you can not tolerate any disrespect , name calling , put downs or anything else he might do that makes you feel degraded, and the same goes for you too, or the love is going to fly out the window, you have to treat him like you want to be treated,
you might have gone with him for three years BUT you don't know someone until you live with them, then the REAL him shows up.....
my husband was a real *** kisser before we got married, opened the car door for me , etc. you know , he did everything that you want a man to do, then you get married and you have your first big fight, not a physical fight , a fight where you didn't feel like the princess you once felt before you were married, and I told him "You think I need you?" "Well guess again!. I got in my car and left......They just want to see how far they can push you , just like children ,they try and see how much they can get away with ,now he thinks twice before he'll say something unacceptable
2006-10-07 16:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by laney45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you feeling trapped? Like a caged animal? Marriage brings with it a lot of additional responsibilities making us long for the good old days of bachelor/bachelorette-hood. Did you live together before marrying? If not, enough said. Get organized inside the house and in your finances if you are not already. Talk about your priorities as a couple as well as each of you as individuals---you are still each your own person even tho the two became one. And what are the things you are responding immaturely to? Is he giving you reason to respond that way? Talk with him about how you are feeling. Talk WITH him, not at him or to him. WITH him. A conversation is a two sided dialoge. Don't control the conversation---ask for his input, too. good luck.
2006-10-07 16:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They show their true colors when they know just walking out the door is not as easy once you get a license. I was in a bad marriage like that. Once we got married, he became abusive. Thank God I still had my mom and dad to go home to,,,,even with a little baby. Get out, it will only get worse than better.
2006-10-07 16:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by dogsrulecatsqtime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks he ownes you now that you two are married, so he thinks he can act as he pleases. Make sure you talk to him about it and if he still doesn't calm down I suggest you get marriage counseling.
2006-10-07 16:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by h2gj87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok he cant make u act a certain way, its all u thats doin it, and if u dont like the way u act around him then y did u marry him??
2006-10-07 16:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They act like asses because they feel secure that you will let them get away with it. Sometimes they think that you NEED Them.
I let everyone I have been with.
I Don't need them in my life.
I want them in my life.
They are there because I desire them. Not because I need Them.
2006-10-07 16:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its like that. You might want to get out before there are any children.
2006-10-07 16:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then why are you choosing to act like that?
2006-10-07 16:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say the ture colors come out after marriage.
2006-10-07 16:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by kierstead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋