I have never been with a girl but I the thought crosses my mind. I think it is natural, but lately it has been more intense. I come from a pretty conservative family and my values (are not necessarily theirs) but it is hard to forget how you were raised. I don't know if I want to do anything with a girl, but was just wondering if any other girls think the same.
2006-10-07 15:52:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i grew up in a very christain family and was raised to belive homosexuilty was wrong and a sin and that you will go to hell.... but i had to feel my own feelings and go with what i thought felt right and what i belived in my heart. i always had a thing for girl's and the feeling just got more intense and stronger but then it took me awhile to figure out who i was and didnt want to belive i was gay and i knew my family wouldnt except it but i finally told them im gay at first my mom tried preaching to me about the bible same with my grandma and all that but now they just accept it they have no other choice but anywase i think mabey if u start to mabey crush on another girl then i would go with it but if u have no girl really in mind it's just thoughts i wouldnt wounder to much just yet
2006-10-07 17:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by blueeyes3313 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate. I am in my mid 30's and the thought has crossed my mind since I was a teen. I too have never been with another female. My family is against same sex relations and I live in somewhat of a small town. I really don't have anyway to go to any near by places to meet people with similar intrests, other than my best friend. She is the only person I can talk to about things since she is an open bisexual.
2006-10-09 08:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by blueyedangel71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is completely normal and natural for us to be curious about what it would be like to be with another woman. I also believe that any woman who says they have never wondered about this is lying. I know that I have certainly done my share of wondering and experimenting, ultimately leading to the conclusion that I'm bi-sexual. I, like you came from a somewhat homophobic family. We were told never to judge them, and to always be nice to them, but nothing more. My parents panicked when they found out that some of my friends in school were gay. It took me until I was 30 to overcome that way of thinking, about myself. That there was something wrong with me, and that if I acted on those feelings I would be sinning.
I don't feel that way anymore and the following site was very helpful to me when it came to the religious aspect of homosexuality. Hopefully it will help you obtain some peace about this as well.
www.godmademegay.com
It was written by a southern baptist preacher and is very informative. You can email him, and he will answer any questions you may have. I have talked to him several times myself. Good luck, and I wish you all the best.
2006-10-08 01:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Questioning is a natural thing for young people and I mean questioning most things. You should be careful and not do anything you are not sure about or happy with.
I was raised in a strict protestant family but was accepted. These things can only be tested and tried over time.
Live well, love kindly, be true to yourself, Rose P.
2006-10-07 23:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by rose p 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely natural. You may be too young to know for sure whether you are gay or not but go with your feelings. Be true to yourself. Being gay is not a choice. No one will choose a life of discrimination ! If you are though, begin accepting yourself. At the end of the day you have to live with yourself and even if your family might not like your choices, you have to do what is right for you.
2006-10-07 23:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by Cichlid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a lesbian, so I think it's very natural to be with women. However what I dont think is natural is to deny what you feel and be with someone because it would make other people happy.
What I mean is, you said your family is conservative. If you marry a total loser to make them happy then your life is going to be spent tied to someone that you dont love. To me, thats not natural.
If you want to be with a woman, than be with one, if your not sure then wait until your sure. If you change your mind and decide thats not what you want then cool.
But whatever you choose, choose it because it's what YOU want, not what other people want. i.e family, friends, idiots on yahoo answers :-) it's your life, and nobody can live it but you.
2006-10-08 00:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by angelajock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Im the same. Ive never been with a girl in any way either, but I think I fall somewhere closer to the middle..you know. Im married and very happy, but I am attracted to women and think about them sometimes.
2006-10-07 23:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 19 and the same thing happened to be when I was about 12. It is natural to be bi-curious, but wether you choose to act on it or not is up to you. I don't see anything wrong with people of the same sex wanting to be with each other.
2006-10-07 22:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Ford 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's completely natural. Hopefully time will undo some of your family's damage. Just be true to yourself and be happy, whether you decide to go straight, bi, les, or celibate. One last thing, fantasies are just fantasies. For exapmle, some women and men fantasize about being raped, but that doesn't mean they actually want to be raped in real life.
2006-10-08 11:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every other animal on the planet is bisexual by nature and humans are just another animal. I think everybody has thoughts at some point whether they admit it or not.
2006-10-07 22:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by lynnca1972 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋