ive got parent issues like everyone else. my mom moves around from guy to guy she would go from a lawyer to a mechanic to a security guard than back to a lawyer all in one week. i normally wouldnt care because we have no relationship we dont talk at all. but the one guy she happens to love is a total asshole. im 15 and we just moved in a month ago. he gets into fullout fistfights with his 16year old son and i can hear the hole thing. i avoided him but today i had friends over and they were drinking when he sobered up enough to realize that we drank his beer it caught his attention. he hit me over and over and i wasnt good at defending myself and when he came after me i froze up. now iv got bruises and the hole half of my face is bright red. and get this after all this he asks for an apology! my mom said it was a once only thing and my stepbrother said "once only thing my ***" i no this cant be normal how do i get out of this without messing up school and turning out like my stepbrother
2006-10-07 15:31:47 · 27 answers · asked by Annie B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't forgive, call the cops
2006-10-07 15:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by living it 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-19 06:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get out of there. He has assaulted you. Go straight to a doctor and report it. You are only 15, no one has the right to hit you. Call Life line, 13 11 14 in Melbourne or Kids Line 1800 55 1800. Or look in the front few pages of your White Pages phone book. Your school, no matter how long you have been there, can help. Ask to see a counsellor at school. They can help you find somewhere to live while you finish studying. ( At fifteen, not many parents would let you drink at home)
What has been happening to you is NOT YOUR FAULT. You have no control over what your mother does. But you do not have to live like that. And you do not have to be responsible for what happens to your mother. This is your life, go grab it.
2006-10-07 15:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by sanwhatnow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the other suggestions. Yes, you were wrong for drinking. You're under age. But that's a whole different situation. You need to call the police or go to the police station and tell them what happened. Let it be put on record what he did to you and what he will probably do again if he feels as if he's been "disrespected." It doesn't matter what you did, he had no right to touch you and he's not a guy you or your mother need to be around.
If you don't want to go to the police just yet (which I hope you do), have one of your friends take pictures of your bruises right away. Take pictures of any and all injuries this man causes and keep a dated journal of what he does to you, your mother and your brother.
But my main advice for you would be to go to the police. If not them, a school teacher, guidance counselor or adult you trust.
Good luck and sorry I can't help out more.
2006-10-07 15:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by ♥i KnwUc It♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either call the police or tell your guidance counselor at school or some other trusted adult immediately. Get pictures of yourself while your bruises are still fresh as you may need them later.
Although he had absolutely NO right to put his hands on you like that, you also had no right to drink his beer. Any way it goes, know it wasn't your fault. Also know that this was not a one time thing, if you let it, it will continue to happen and could get much worse. You'll be ok, do what you need to do.
2006-10-07 15:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Independent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youre mother is a bad parent I have two kids and if a man evet hit either of them like that his *** would be in jail so fast. I dont know what I would do I mean if you go to school like that you know they are going to have you in the office in like 5 seconds to ask what happend. You can either lie or tell the truth if you tell the truth then you could end up in foster care or something like that. I think you mother should stop thinking of herself and leave this creep. You shouldnt have been drinking in the first place but that guy had no right hitting you like that. Once I dumped out a whole case of beer with my brother because we tasted it and thought it was nasty we were like 7 or 8 my dad was mad but he didnt totaly beat our asses like that. You need to tell youre mom to leave this guy or go live with another family member and no more drinking beer. Its very bad for youre health. I have an uncle that is dying because he drank beer he stopped the minute he found out he was sick but now its too late its either a liver transplant or he dies. Think about that. Dont drink anymore andtry to get her to leave him. good luck
2006-10-07 15:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police or go to someone who you think would help you. This guy has no right to hit you at all nor your step brother. Get help for both of you before this guy ends up hurting you really worse. He may say he is sorry now, but what about if he does it again the next time. Just go get some help. for your sake and your step brothers sake. Call the police on this guy.
2006-10-07 15:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon you need to report what he did. He needs help. If he is doing this to his son a lot - then what he did to you is prob going to become more of a common thing.
Don't ever let anyone do that to you, because you don't deserve it.
Children should never be punished that way.
I'm really sorry that your mother allowed it.
Talk to a school counselor or call one of those 1800numbers and get some advice from people who know what you can do.
2006-10-07 15:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by Miss. Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you do not deserve this treatment and there is absolutely no excuse for your mother defending him. Where's your father or grandmother? Do you know him or have a relationship with him? Tell her/him to call Child Protective Services for you. You are in a tough situation and need help. Talk to a close adult you know and ask for help....do it right now!
2006-10-07 15:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO. THERE IS NOT SUCH THING AS HITTING ONCE....
I AM SORRY THAT YOU HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS...YOU DESERVE BETTER..
GO TO SCHOOL AND TELL AN ADULT.... I WOULD SAY YOU HAD NO RIGHT DRINKING THE BEER... BUT I CAN NOT SAY THAT. CAUSE AT YOUR AGE, HELL I DRANK AND GOT DRUNK.
THE FACT THAT HE HIT YOU AND YOUR MOTHER STANDS BY HIM MAKES ME SICK.. YOU NEED TO GET OUT.... GET AWAY FROM YOUR MOM... SHE IS JUST AS MESSED UP..
GO TO A HOME FOR BATTERED WOMEN... YOU NEED TO GET OUT..... IF YOU STAY THERE YOU WILL TURN OUT LIKE YOUR STEP BROTHER. NEXT TIME YOU MAY NOT BE SO LUCKY.. HE MAY HURT YOU EVEN MORE.
YOU HAVE THE MARKS TO PROVE WHAT HE DID.... TURN HIM AND YOUR MOM IN... YOUR MOM IS JUST AS MUCH TO BLAME FOR THIS.... MAKE THEM PAY NOW..
2006-10-07 15:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl I am dead serious, CALL THE POLICE. OR go down to the police station and tell them what happened. You have RIGHTS and you may not see it now, but what he did was a CRIME. Don't be afraid, the police will take care of you. Trust me, life is much better than this. Please go to the police station AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
2006-10-07 15:44:00 · answer #11 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋