2006-10-07 15:18:19 · 12 answers · asked by ne_patriots2005 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best part is you have identified him for what he is!
As far as moving forward in your life......
You have to honest.....and understand yourself and who you are and what you want from life. Your ex may have diluted your perception of what is healthy.
Your kids:
Be a leader, your kids will follow....... no matter what direction they seem to take behind your ex, they will follow what's truthful and right as well as strong, controlling and manipulative is not any strength.
I give you my best :)
2006-10-07 15:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Keanu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a good atorney!! You will need legal help in the matter and protection. You can usually get a free consultation from an attorney to tell you what you need to do. Make sure you go to a family attorney who will fight for you. If you husband is manipulative he will try to do anything he can to win the system over and he will probably try to use your kids as a vice. Be careful and good luck!!
2006-10-07 15:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing. It took me 13 years to realise I was slowly dying inside. I thought the only way I would get out was in a body bag. The funny thing is though, these men are really just scared inside and insecure. They control and manipulate because it makes them feel more secure.
After we broke up, he still controlled my life. Took the kids whenever he wanted, told them their Mum was a bi#tch and made sure he did everything in his power to control me monetarily.
I was too scared to stand up to him, even though I had had the courage to leave him.
My sister had enough one day and took me to the local court to apply for an apprehended violence order. As I wasn't working and was on a single parent pension, I was entitled to legal aid. They were wonderful. We came to an arrangement that suited me, not just him and had it written out legally. Now 10 years later, the kids won't speak to him (he belted them) and he is a lonely fart.
The bottom line is, you have to have had enough before you take action.
I hope this happens for you sooner rather than later, only then will you move on and make life easier for you and you kids
2006-10-07 15:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by jewel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a visitation order in result? If no longer tell your ex if his sister would not provide up asserting issues on your son you will no longer deliver him there anymore or get after college care until eventually his dad can %. him up or you get him after college and enable his dad get him while he gets off of artwork. If there's a visitation order in result then refer to a lawyer and tell him your concerns and how your son behaves while he comes homestead and spot what could be finished. There needs to be an analyze as to what is going directly to reason your son to act out. it ought to be that he in basic terms misses his dad yet a six year previous should not be disrespectful to any person whether it is your boyfriend or no longer this is unacceptable and needs to be dealt with. in line with risk you will desire to purpose taking your son to a counselor and spot if it enables earlier it gets any worse. He would not understand what has got here approximately an subsequently while little ones don't understand they act out many of the time in anger which isn't a good concern. professional help is stunning.
2016-10-02 01:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people only have as much control over you as you give them. Stop contacting him. Try court supervised visitation...he may find it hard to be manipulative in the presence of a Deputy.
As for you, you have to break contact. You have to hang-up...you have to slam the door in his face...you may have to move. You have to get on with your life...meet new people, make new friends...basically just fill up your life till you have no more room, or time for his intrusions. Good Luck
2006-10-07 15:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the court house on Monday and get a restraining order.
Dont take any calls from him. Dont see him.
Call a lawyer, They will give you good free advice.
I hope this work out.
Remember what ever you do, think about your kids. They come first.
2006-10-07 15:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The law is on your side. Get a lawyer and start documenting the things he is doing to you. Be strong because you children need you the most right now. Don't let this man scare you and bully you. You have every right to find happiness and peace. Good luck to you.
2006-10-07 15:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call someone you trust and see if you and your kids can stay with them for a while until you get on your feet...! dont stay there if he is abusive there is absolutly no need for it... if you have nowhere else to go then i say BS cause you can call churches and the salvation army and they will put you somewhere.. try a womens shelter.. there are more than where you are..!
2006-10-07 15:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Tonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first find you and your kids a place you feel safe that he dose not know then call your look safeplace/family violence center they well help and the controll well turn into physcail i know from my past and realize GOD made women strong then men and we can do what it takes to
2006-10-07 15:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by proudmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your ex then how is he controlling and manipulating?
2006-10-07 15:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋