My husband took a vacation to visit his lover for four days. He is coming back tonight. I want him back. I am praying to have my family reunited as the good old days. But I am sad and dismay. I cann't welcome him as regular business trip. I hate the situation. But I don't want to mess-up the whole family. I have two kids, 6 & 8. They don't know what's going on. What should I do?
2006-10-07 15:01:06 · 8 answers · asked by wawashay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First thing you should consider is that this could easily have been you that did the "creeping". The heart knows what the heart knows & no human is going to change that. Then if you truly love him, let him know in a calm & loving manner that you know the truth. Ask him what does he need & what does he get from the other relationship that he doesn't get from you. Then ask yourself if you can & are willing to provide that & ask him if it would make a difference. Know too that you deserve to be loved & appreciated just the way you dream it to be. Let him know this too & that out of 600billion ppl on this planet, you chose him & your life together.
Just try to be understanding w/o being a doormat. Demand that your rights & feelings be considered as well & then go from there. Love is all that matters. With that as a foundation, you can build castles.
Good luck & godspeed to your broken heart.
2006-10-07 15:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by angels02_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the type of behavior you want your kids to see.. im sure they know more then you think about what is going on.. they are going to grow up with a mother that has no back bone and allows her husband to have a lover and a low life cheat as a father do what you should have done from the start divorce him and take it all
2006-10-07 15:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EXCUSE ME.....you don't want to mess up the family?
Call him and tell him he's not welcome back. Grow a backbone.
He's running around on you and you're worred about the family not holding together? News Flash......it's already falling apart. You're trying to bail water from a ship that's already underwater.
All you're doing is trying to hide a pink elephant behind a lampstand. Kids are more aware than you think, I'd be willing to bet they already know something's not quite right. You need to think higher of yourself; you are actually ASSISTING your husband with his affair by trying to keep everyone from acting like there's anything wrong!!!
Get mad, get tough, and let this man reap some consequences for his actions. Contact a lawyer. Start moving to get a divorce and sole custody because of his infidelity. Contacting a lawyer commits you to nothing, but should tell him you're very serious.
2006-10-07 15:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he was with her that means he will always have somebody. do u really see the point of saving ur family. he cheated on u, he wants somebody else, can u live with this thought in ur head and this pain in ur heart, because i couldnt....its gonna be hard and how can u trust him again and be sure that he loves u. open ur eyes honey. u can find somebody who will loe u forever without cheating
2006-10-07 15:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now it's your turn..take your own "vacation" and leave him with the kids for an equal length of time, oh and don't tell him where you are going either!
2006-10-07 15:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by blondambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he feel betrayed? Seriously. Is he getting you back or did he stray first? I don't understand.
2006-10-07 15:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have his baggs packed and in front of the door...
Do not let him in the house..
Tell him you want a divorce...
2006-10-07 15:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want this cheater, swallow your pride and keep enabling this behaviour ... if you dont, get a divorce
FACT: the "good old days" are long gone .... sorry
2006-10-07 15:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋