and i don't know how to tell him, or my mom what should i do?
2006-10-07 14:40:23 · 34 answers · asked by kswiss_rocks 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
go ahead and tell your parents so they can help you through the pregnancy they will probably be more understanding than you think althought it might take them a couple of days to cope with it
2006-10-07 14:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom and go to a doctor now. Your young body is really not equipped to handle a baby and this is very dangerous for you.
After you do that you may want to tell the guy who got you pregnant. He is probably not going to be able to help you with anything if he is your age. At 13 he (nor you) are in no way able to handle the financial, emotional, or mental responsibility of having a baby. Don't expect much from him.
You don't sound very scared hon, but you really should be. Have you verified the pregnancy with a pregnancy test? If not and you find out you are not pregnant take this as a wake up call! Either stop having sex or get some birth control, but you really shouldn't be having sex unless you are ready to handle the consequences.
At your age you really need to start exploring your options here, i.e: adoption. You need to finish school.
2006-10-07 16:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Christina K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just guess. Please go get a pregnancy test kit first. Be 100% sure of this before hand because once you tell your mom, that's it, things will never be the same again, so please be sure. If you are absolutely sure then 1) figure out if you want to keep the baby and be a mom yourself or if you don't think that this is right for you at this time in your life in which case you may want to get an abortion. Once you have an idea of what YOU want then 2) Tell your mom. If you choose to keep the baby then you have to tell your boyfriend however if you choose not to keep it then it is up to you if you want to tell him or not.
Good luck to you, I know that it is not easy. But it has to be your decision in the end and whichever you choose it will be life changing so make sure that you do not let anyone else including your mom to bully you into making the wrong choice for you. You can write to me to keep me up to date on what happens next if you want to. You can e-mail me if you want to talk. good luck and be sure you are in fact pregnant first.
2006-10-07 15:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by LondonLou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get it out as soon as possible the sooner the better. Tell your parents first and then let the others know. I got pregnant when I was 16 and waited and it was wrong. Yes the will be mad at you for awhile and you might feel really bad about it but at least you got it out, and then go from there. This is what a family is for to help you and to listen. It is going to be hard but just do it, if you are ready to get pregnant then you need to grow up really fast and take it like it is.
2006-10-07 14:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well first you need to tell your mom!
You need to think about what you are going to do with the baby! I recmommend putting it up for adoption, there is no way you should have a baby this young! You still need to finish school, and have somewhat of a life ahead of you! Give that baby the family is deserves! Check out LDSfamily services, see if there is a office in your area, it's free and they will give you all sorts of stats and options. But the choice is ultimately yours! Be wise!
YOur mom might come off upset, but she loves you and will help you through it, if not then confide in another TRUSTING ADULT!
I would find a counsellor through, they really can help al ot!
Good Luck!
2006-10-07 14:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest. Your mom is not going to be very happy with you, but she will eventually accept this. Her love and support towards the baby will grow. You can do this. If you're truly not ready, then give your baby up for adoption- there are many people who would love to adopt your baby! If you can't do that, then keep it, stay in school, and try your absolute hardest to raise your child. It's very difficult, but it is possible. I'll say a prayer for you!
2006-10-07 14:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by LiSa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mom, so that she can help you make the best decision for you. If I were you, I would be much more worried about telling my mom at this point, then I would be about telling him.
2006-10-08 07:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by cyncase007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your Mom immediately. Tell your boyfriend the next day, but talk to your Mom NOW. The two of you need to discuss what your options are, and get you to a doctor for a check up.
Do not put this off; the longer you wait, the harder its going to be.
2006-10-07 14:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your Mom and just break it to her. The sooner the better. If you are afraid of what your Mom might say or do then talk to a school counselor or local minister (if you do not have one of oyur own) and they can set up a meeting with you and your Mom. Good Luck
2006-10-07 14:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by misshstn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, you are just a baby. I'm sorry you're in the predicament you are, but you obviously made some very adult decisions (having sex) at a very young age. The first thing you should do is talk to your mother. She will help you to make the right decision for you. My daughter is 15 and while I would be shocked and disappointed with the situation, I would do whatever I could to help her if she was in your place.
2006-10-07 14:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by deangelis88 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom first then him. Your young you have a lot to think about. You need to worry about yourself and whats best for you. Don't get caught up with the idea that everything will be happily ever after, because it wont you have a long hard road ahead of you. Boys am\nd pick and choose if they want to be parents girls and women don't, think about you.
2006-10-07 14:48:01 · answer #11 · answered by traci s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋