If your spouse did something that really, really, really pissed you off and you hate that and can not forgive just that one thing and you have disconnected intimately for months, can a person just settle and live with the fact that intimacy is no longer wanted? I have no need or desire for that type of intimacy ever again. I am not talking about someone who cheated. I am talking about betrayal of trust and meaness by the other person, when you refuse to forgive that one thing. Why pretend that things are ok one minute just to please the other person and then still spite them for doing something to you? Why not just be honest and stand up for yourself and not give into their wants? This may sound selfish, but it is not right to pretend to be forgiving when the person has done nothing to settle the problem. Some mistakes are just too much to forget. What do you think?
2006-10-07 14:14:41 · 5 answers · asked by just julie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We don't have children and do not plan on having any--for those who respond about that.
2006-10-07 14:20:13 · update #1
If that's the course you continue on, you won't have a marriage; one of you will eventually bail. So if you want to remain married, you'd better find a way through all this.
2006-10-07 14:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I could stay in a relationship without intimacy. I agree with you that you should not pretend that everything is okay when it isn't. If you don't love your spouse anymore, then if I were you, I wouldn't stay in the marriage. You can find someone who will treat you right and make you want to be intimate again. Good luck! :)
2006-10-07 14:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew the answer to this for you. Might help me a little too. I guess if you don't have kids it makes your situation a little less complicated....wouldn't it be nice to have intimacy? If it's something that's important to you, you won't want to stay in the relationship, when you could find it with someone else. It's nice to be close to someone mentally and emotionly, but it's really really nice to have that additional closeness physically. Plus, it's fun...
2006-10-07 14:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by karrybear_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay in a marriage like that? I would leave and go in search of someone with whom I could be truely happy.
2006-10-07 14:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET DIVORCED, WHY WOULD YOU GO THRU THE OTHER OPTION? KIDS ARE NOT AND EXCUSE.
2006-10-07 14:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋