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that she needs to loose a couple of pounds? she picked up about 10pounds since we started dating a year ago?

2006-10-07 13:59:10 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Gender Studies

INDEED - IT SHOULD BE LOSE AND NOT LOOSE. thanks for pointing it out to me?

2006-10-08 05:34:13 · update #1

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Wow, my best advice is to tell her directly. Ler her know whats going through your mind.
But before you do that, think about her. And when you talk to her, dont make her feel bad, women are very sensative and we tend to get offended about a subject we just dont want to talk about (sometimes) a good example is weight. And if you see her happy then let her be, when shes ready to change and lose weight she'll do it on her own. But if you know shes struggling, encourage her. Try going to the gym together, or change each other diets. Make it fun, and just let her know that you love her.

2006-10-07 14:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by diana li 2 · 0 1

I say unless you can stand in front of a mirror and see absolutely nothing wrong with your body you should forget it. The worse thing you can do in a relationship is make the other person think all you care about is their size. I can guarantee that if she has picked up 10 pounds since you have been together you don't need to tell her. She already knows. Give her some time and see what happens. Maybe if you got a membership to a gym and she saw that you were really into it she would want to join also. This way you aren't hurting her feelings by being blunt about her weight.

2006-10-07 14:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy G 4 · 1 0

There are many reasons for weight gain.
Are they any issues in her life that may be a contributing factor?
How is your relationship going?
Stress can be a factor for weight gain.
Simply mentioning weight reduction can add undue stress & anxiety to her (which in turn can lead to other health problems).
Some people find it hard to lose weight (eg. metabolosm) which they can't help.
Is weight a critical factor in your relationship?
Do you worry about what "other" people may say?
If so, it seems appearance is much stronger than love.
No one can know how one feels unless that person has worked a 1000 miles in their shoes.
Be careful how you approach this issue or you may destroy something special what you already have.
If dietary reasons, try changing both of your diets, start a membership at a fitness centre together.
It just may be a lifestyle change you both need.
The key to any relationship is communication. Talk to you partner & find out if there is anything in her life she wants to discuss.
Just a thought.

2006-10-07 14:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

My wager is the alcohol made her name. When I used to drink closely that is what alcohol made me do. I must say that I feel even as it took away any inhibitions it additionally tended to depress me and purpose me to seem for comfort from peers of the fairer intercourse. I'm now not precisely certain why this occurs. You've heard men say "allow's get inebriated and speak to up a few ladies" good that turns out to preserve actual for ladies as good. I'm considering that her consuming obtained among you 2 ago and that it my were the underlying motive you broke up. She might observe this and think that she made a mistake. Question is how does she think approximately you whilst she's sober. That's what concerns.

2016-08-29 06:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Looks shouldn't be that important if you love her but, I bet if you say it in a kind and nice way. Sometimes we don't worry that much when we start putting up weight. The thing is she won't have to deal with the extra pounds once she breaks up with you and starts dating again!!!

2006-10-07 15:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Luck 5 · 0 0

I did the same thing - after I got married, I put on a few pounds. Do you & your girlfriend joke around alot? Cause you could always bring it up in a joking way.

Or, bring out pictures from when you started dating and say things like "man - you look HOT in this picture."

Whatever you do, please be kind. Don't be mean and don't say cruel things. It will affect her self esteem, which is a bad thing to do.

2006-10-07 14:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by ckphilly 2 · 2 0

Believe me, she knows. There is nothing women are more conscious of than their weight. And guess what; the sooner she starts dieting and losing weight the sooner she is going to screw up her metabolism. She will find it harder and harder to lose weight and easier to gain. If you really want to help her don't say anything but encourage her to get more exercise. And by encourage I don't mean nag. Go jogging with her. Find sports you can participate in together. Exercise will adjust her metabolism and burn calories and won't lead to yo yo dieting.

2006-10-07 16:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0 0

you should just invite her to go work out with you, tell her that shes beautiful but she would look so much more if she would tone up, you dont have to use the term 'gained weight' or 'got fat' or anything negative to let her know. Just tell her that you want her to start runnin with you at the beach or park or wherever you guys are close to, then maybe she might get the idea and start doin it on her own for herself.

2006-10-07 14:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by Esme 3 · 0 0

Unless you are Adonis, I would say keep your mouth shut! She's still the same person and ten pounds isn't a lot of weight. It's lose, not loose.

2006-10-07 14:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 2 0

If it was a drastic change in her weight you could always say that your concerned for her health. But come on! 10 lbs. Maybe try fun activities with her. I feel that if 10 lbs. is such a big deal to you she is probably not the woman for you.

2006-10-07 14:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by newleaf102270 1 · 1 0

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