also he doest help me at all with my son he pays me support when ever he feels like it but then again he want to see his son more often, also when he does pay child support he gives it to in a money order he doest send in to child support would that be taken off his back pay.
2006-10-07 13:54:19 · 9 answers · asked by motherg12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get him in trouble for not paying support and see if you can make his visits short and accompanied. Why doesn't he like going with his dad and how old is he?
2006-10-07 13:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
About the child support, Depending on what state your in, the laws differ. In our state, when you give either cash, money order or check directly to the other parent, without going through the court system, it is considered a gift to the well being of the child. It is not deducted from either curret or past due support. As far as the crying goes, definitely look into why. Many years ago, when I was little, I would cry before I left my mom cause i was going to miss her. Then at the end of the weekend, on the ride back to mom, once again I cried most of the way home cause I was going to miss my dad. Hope it all works out.
2006-10-07 14:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by bugoff26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say how old the child is. Young children pick up on parents anger. Are you hostel towards your ex? As much as you hate it, You have to be polite to him around the child, and do not speak bad about him around the child. (It is actually considered abuse in some situations- My ex found out the hard way) You really have to remember, it is the child's father, you BOTH made the choice to sleep together, so you BOTH need to be parents, even if not together. As for child support, It kills me that men AND women do not pay what is their fair share. If he is not doing it, take him to court, but still, DO NOT involve the child, they have been through enough already. To many parents think it is all about them...And forget the kids...
And before you do as alot of women do, don't scream there must be abuse. That is so lame.
BTY I have custody of my sons, and SHE doesn't pay a dime. When they can find her...
2006-10-07 14:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask your son why he cries when his dad wants to take him. Ask him does he hurt him in any way or if he just misses his mommy. Try to get it out of him because he should not be doing that. I would find out and try to have some other alternative, maybe meet him at a park or something. Go to a lawyer and make sure you get your child support when ever your supposed to get it, then you can talk about your son crying every time he has to go. I tell you I wouldn't send him if it was my son, there's nothing he can do, he can get himself in trouble forr not giving the right child support, you might even get back support from him if the lawyer thinks so. But I would seriously talk to a lawyer.....................
2006-10-07 14:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your son is crying when his dad is picking him up there may be a reason for it there might be things going on that you dont know about and you need to go to court to make him pay everything he owes you it sounds like hes not doing it the right way so what i would do is call a lawyer and discuss it with him and see what there is that you can do about the situation good luck
2006-10-07 14:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by gigglezdelight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't quit understand the last part of you question but Welcome to the divorce world of mothers! most spouses don't pay their support like they should. They think you spend it on yourself. If you want to make him pay up send him to child support recovery. Or see an attorney and have him make some negotiations with your ex. He can see your son more but he has to pay up and start paying on time or else he doesn't see him.
2006-10-07 14:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to go back to court and let your son tell the judge that he does not want to visit his father, no matter how old the child is he should be allowed to speak for himself because it is ALL about him.
2006-10-07 13:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do the sperm donor any favors until he gets up off of his payments. The child cries because he probably knows how tight his Dad is.
2006-10-07 14:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by Spann M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take him to court. your son carries because it is not familar with his father. tell the father to make time to see his son more often.
2006-10-07 13:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋