Especially when the husband is always trying to make love with her and wants to make her feel loved, wanted, respected?
2006-10-07 13:24:03 · 30 answers · asked by shlomogon 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And 95% she has an orgasm!
2006-10-07 13:27:03 · update #1
Your wife is probably just a little embarrassed to have you know that she is doing it. But it probably has nothing to do with you not satisfying her. Masturbation is a total natural thing for humans to do. But also, look at it this way, wouldn't you rather have her do that than be out cheating on you if indeed she isn't getting all the sexual gratification that she needs with you?
I masturbate all the time, but my husband knows that I do. I do it openly right beside him in bed because I can not get an orgasm through intercourse and he usually can not stimulate me the way that I can to masturbate. But he lays there right besides me and caresses me and does whatever I need to help me achieve my orgasm. Many times he will have me get mine first before he gets his. There are also times when we are apart that I masturbate, and we always have some humor over it, because I will tell him that I "thought of him" that day or tell him that I was "bad that day". Sometimes I get horny and do think about him when he's at work, and will watch a dirty movie or fantasized about him to get release when I have come home.
Why not try this with your wife to be more open about her masturbation and be a part of it with her. You may find it will be a lot of fun knowing she is doing it and you guys could be playful about more, like my husband and I are. It's nothing to worry about. In fact, even my husband has masturbated when he has missed me and then told me about it when I got home. Sometimes he used to say he left me a "little present" in our bathroom, so that I would see the evidence of what he had done. Then that would make me horny and I would masturbate when I got home from work.
Try talking to your wife and let her know you are aware of her masturbating and that you are totally fine with it. Let her know that you would like to share the experience with her and see how she reacts to doing that.
Good luck!
2006-10-07 18:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by jims_prettyeyes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Same reason husbands secretly masturbate. Certain needs aren't being met.
2006-10-07 13:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by JS 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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I do, all the time. Any woman who is married and denies that she masturbates, is a liar! If her man isn't around, and she isn't cheating on him, and she doesn't have anything electronic handy, she and her fingers are going for a walk.
2016-04-04 23:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she has an orgasm or just fakes she has one. Alot of woman do it because they can't have an orgasm during intercourse. They need oral or manual stimulation. Has your wife suffered from any type of sexual abuse in the past? Men secretly masturbate and that is ok. Even if they are very sexual. If you and your wife have a good sex life, then it should be ok for her to do it as well. Some people have a higher sex drive than others. If she is a very physically active person, hers may be very high. I think you should sit down with her being totally honest about it, if you do let her know and the two of you should discuss it.
2006-10-07 14:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by RITA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be only she herself know how she can get an orgasm; since you have said, 95% she got orgasm. Being said that, provided the masturbation doesn't affect the sex life with her husband. If yes, then this is not healthy and may lead to some problems in the marriage later on.
2006-10-07 13:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the artificial linkage between orgasms through sex, or the lack of them, and masturbation?? Are women supposed to be satisfied and grateful if they climax with a partner and so not need to masturbate?? I think not. Having a great sex life with my husband is one thing and spending a little me time to masturbate most days is another. If I spent the time watching TV or having a coffee or playing piano would it be any different? I see it as a case of taking 20 minutes for myself to relax, have some fun and probably do my health some good! does hubby know or mind? He knows and likes to hear what I have been up to as that gets him in the mood for sex!
2014-09-10 23:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I secretly masturbate, because my husband is a jerk, and I can not imagine myself havung sex with him anymore, men do not understand that for most women, sex is in the minds, and if my mind is not there, then you are lost. So I masturbate.
2006-10-07 19:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by Happy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-24 23:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Secretly - because she doesn't want to disapoint you.
Masturbate - cause she knows better than you how to please herself. Good thing you're trying to please her. Maybe eventually your stimulation will be better an d more fun than ther own. I can put it for you this way - her own hands were there for her for 20-some years, if not more. You are about 20 years behind in experience. It takes time to catch up.
It doesn't mean that you are unwanted or not respected. It's just a different thing.
2006-10-07 14:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhhhh how about cuz they are just horny and need some release. My wife masturbates on a regular basis and when I get home...she's all nice and juicy for me. Enjoy it.
2006-10-07 13:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy it and I don't have to hide it. If I'm feeling horny I usually take matters into my own hands. If hubby around I just climb on top of him and go for a ride. Whats the big deal, maybe you should ask your wife if you can watch while she goes at it.
2006-10-07 14:43:27 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋