A girl i was friends with has recently started seeing my most recent ex who broke my heart. We weren't best mates but she was/is in my circle and lied to me a number of times about the nature of their relationship. I'm not a twisted misery guts but it is rather galling. Am i being silly to resent her?
2006-10-07 13:16:40 · 12 answers · asked by peeve 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if she was in your cirlcle, then no your not being silly if she was comfortable with the situation then she wouldnt have lied to you...if i were you i wouldnt feed into that...keep your distance...and if she speaks to you...speak back but keep it short...honey always be the bigger person....just don't have anything to do with her...cause you already know what kind of person she is...she's capable of messing with your man...or even those you have once dated...
2006-10-07 13:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, if anything she should be understanding of ur feelings. She should be aware of what her actions are towards you & as u've said. She's lied to you before, but here's something. She's not a close friend, so screw her.
If the guy was a sorry to say a**hole. Then you've done the right thing by leading a separate life. But if you parted on grounds that one was feeling more than the other, then it's best to just leave it be also. What u've got to do is just chill with your CLOSE mates & be around people who will keep up ur confidence & wont bring you down. THen one day when you see ur ex on the road some day u'll be able to say to urself. Damn I used to go out with this guy. Least I've moved on.
(sorry for the essay, but I guess once u've gone through it. it makes u stronger in future)
Good luck
2006-10-07 13:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends how close you and her were, and how long your most recent ex has been an ex. You say you were friends with her but only that she was in your circle. If you and her never were one on one friends, chatted on the phone, went out alone, then your ex is not off limits to her. Also, if it's been more than a couple of onths you and him broke up, all the more reason he's not off limits. By the way, if he was so mean to you, she is only going to be sorry for dating him!
2006-10-07 13:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I I would be jealous but I would not -not talk to my friend- anymore for it. You see it's complicated, if she gave a damn about you she would not have lied to you!!
But consider this, my dear friend Jackie tried to date this one boy last year, and he stood her up twice (ouch) but I'm starting to take an interest in him, and what if I get lucky and start to date him (unlikely but hey a girl can dream) I didn't even know him last year so I had nothing to do with their relationship problems, but the bottom line is does that make me a bad friend, especially considering she started hitting on this one boy who was special to me and didn't even bother to ask me if I may have liked him!!! But we r still like sisters cuz it's chicks before dicks with us!!
Look the bottom line is; it depends on the two friends, if you girl dumps your boyfriend or your boyfriend dumps you because he didn't love you anymore that's not ur friends fault. Of course it's only okay for your friend to date your ex boyfriend if you said it was okay!!!
But, if she was just your friend to get close to him, lied straight to ur face, hit on ur boyfriend right in front of you and convinced him to dump you then he's a worthless piece of crap and she's a lieing hoebag; they are both so dishonest the deserve eachother and you totally have a right to be pissed off
Debbie 16
2006-10-07 13:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by deby r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question made me feel a little uncomfortable to say the least. Is this girl your friend (i don't think so)? Friends should NEVER date their friends ex's. If i were in your shoes i would not resent her, as she has your sloppy seconds, or am i being bitchy? You are better of without this guy.
2006-10-07 13:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by classychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Julie ought to ask Amy why she would not prefer her pal to be seeing somebody she cares approximately.. if its by way of fact she nevertheless has emotions for him, thats a diverse count and Julie ought to end the courting, yet while she would not Julie shouldn't ought to furnish up somebody she cares approximately and who cares approximately her by way of fact her acquaintances in simple terms would not prefer him to be relationship. that may not honest to bob or to julie. If thats the case, Julie ought to describe (flippantly as to not disillusioned Amy, by way of fact she does nevertheless prefer to be acquaintances and has extra of of undertaking prevailing her over that way) that she would not think of she is being honest, and that Julie ought to have the means to this point who she likes. If Amy is prepared to end a courting over that, then it is not substantial adequate to her, and Amy isn't a pal. yet do not forget, if Amy nevertheless has emotions for Bob, then Julie ought to appreciate that acquaintances are available in the previous boyfriends and the courting can not take place. Julie can clarify that lots to Bob, and say she is extremely sorry for the incident. good success!! :) wish this facilitates.
2016-11-26 23:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by mccullun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she aint no friend of urs, dat is an unwritten rule of friendship just ignore them he's probably only doin it to get to u.Play them at there own game tell her ur absolutly lovin single life n have never been happier n all stuff that u no wat it all will get back to him n then he,ll be sorry he broke ur heart but never take him back n this will make u feel like the most powerful woman on the planet
2006-10-07 23:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jennyxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not date an ex of a real friend. It is an unwritten law of friendship. Besides she lied to you also this is not a friend.
2006-10-07 13:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you had feelings for them and your friend respected you they shouldnt..if they going to they should have been honest and said till you first. your the one that was hurt the first time round but now you have to look at the hurt everytime you see her
2006-10-07 14:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, absolutely not, but i would try & see that she wants 2b with him for perhaps the same reason that you first wanted 2b with him so i wouldn't alienate her completely in my mind but physically... i'd tell her 2 go suck a donkey.
2006-10-07 13:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋