2006-10-07 12:37:57 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Such rash and true statements, though I have to disagree, I think that it should be okay, as long as the mom say that it is ok and you both LOVE, I repeat LOVE each other, than there really should be no reason why not. Age is only a number, I was 17 when I was engaged, 18 when I married, I had a child then too. I am 26 now, and he is 31, not a HUGE gap, but... it is a diference. Also, my sister was young when she married, 18 she was, her husband was 23, that is a 5 year gap. They are divorced now though. Uh.......examples........Oh, how foolish of me to forget, my own parents. They had their 33rd wedding anniversary just yesterday! That may not seem like a big deal to you all, but my mom was 22 when her and my dad got married, and my dad was 45, that is a 23 year age gap, and though my mom was 22 when they married, 21 when they met, imagine if she was 16 like you are, my dad would have been 39 years old. There are many reasons that you should and should not, follow your heart and see what is best and talk to your mother.
2006-10-07 13:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by fatiima 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is your question more focused on your mother, or you? Honestly, your mom will not like you to date seomone 7 years older than you are, because "older guys expect a lot". She loves you and would want to protect you, because a 23 year old guy may be capable of a lot more than someone who is...lets say 18 or your own age. The somewhat down side is that you have to act a lot more mature when you are with him, he expects that from you either consiously or unconsiously. Sometimes this level of maturity may be stressful to a degree. You have an age gap there too, though not significantly... but you will start wondering if you know him enough, because after all, I can guarantee you that a 16 year old leads a VERY different life than a 23 year old. Yes, I agree with many people who also answered your question, there would be a legal problem too, which will be problematic to both you and your mother...and even more for the guy. Besides that, it would be kind of hard to bring either of you into each other's lives...namely friends. so if you are not sure or don't know what to do, don't tell your friends yet, (maybe not even your really close friends, you know the big mouth, rumor problem), becuase they might try to "help" you out of kindness, and it might end up getting you and your guy in big trouble.
2006-10-07 21:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by petbunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need to ask yourself is why would a 23yr old want with you? You haven't finished High School. (Unless he hasn't finished either. Which is another problem.) He is supposed have graduated college and working right now. Instead of that he is attempting to date a 16 yr old girl. That is a really bad sign.
Why isn't he focusing on getting a career started or furthering his education at this point in his life? These are questions you should ask yourself.
Is this the kind the kind of MAN you would pick for yourself?
If he really is in love with you he will wait til you are of decent age. Or he can at least accept the boundaries that your parents have set and respect their wishes. Soon you will be old enough to date him without their consent but its always best to have their blessings.
2006-10-08 13:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by goldenlifev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to say yes and I hate to say no.
Yes because the 16yr old is going to do it anyways.
At least if the parents know about it, the 16 year old can talk with the parents about whats going on.
And kids need that! !!!!!!!!! They really do.
I would have to say, no sex !
Let him wait, and if he does, maybe then u know that the 23 year old is not just with u 4 that.
No, because 16 and 23. Jail could happen.
Wow, I guess u have to know your kids.
That is so hard.
I hope things do work out.
A parent always wants to do the right thing.
2006-10-08 08:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let my daughter date a 23 year old at 16, either.
2006-10-07 12:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by LMJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is too old for you. Not only that, it is illegal. If your mom allows it, she may be in trouble also. Why not date someone your own age. Do you think a 23 year old wants to hang out with you and your friends? There is something wrong with him.
2006-10-07 12:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by elenanita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO...your jail bait....maybe you should think about why a 23 year old wants to date you in the first place...(you being only 16)...is he that much of a looser that he can't get a girl his own age that is legal?
2006-10-07 12:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by pritty_princess_c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. And you should realize that a 23 yo that wants to date a 16 yo is either a loser who can't find someone close to his age, or is very immature, or is really just looking for a young girl to have sex with. Which ever it is, he's not good enough for you!
2006-10-07 15:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jonas_J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some states 16 is the legal age. The question should be, why would a grown man want to "date" a child?
2006-10-07 12:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by firewomen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only if the 23 year old is willing to take a chance on going to jail.
2006-10-07 16:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋