all of the relationships where i was happy with the person i was with ended with them either saying something mean and breaking up with me or they cheat on me.
i pisses me off
2006-10-07 12:32:14 · 12 answers · asked by shimbals 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
You need professional help.
Don't be proud.
See a doctor.
2006-10-07 12:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by kyle.keyes 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, if the same thing keeps happening you have to ask yourself, do you just have really bad luck (I don't know if there is such a thing, to a large extent we shape our own destiny, create our own luck based on what we believe) or are you attracted to a certain kind of (backstabbing) woman, or are you doing something to perpetuate this cycle? Ironically when we fear something, we can actually cause it to happen. We're afraid someone will hurt us so we act in ways that will actually make them hurt us...What can I say? Love stinks!
Anyway, you can change this pattern. Just do some soul-searching to discover who you are, what you want & what kind of woman you're attracted to & why. Be more careful about whom you date. Sometimes the signs are there, but you refuse to see them. A woman might reveal who she is from date 1. Look for clues about how genuine (or shallow) she may be. Granted there are some lying, cheating mean people out there. But there are also some honest, loving, kind & wonderful ones.
Love yourself first. When you become the person you're meant to be, you'll find the love you're meant to have.
Good luck. Don't lose hope.
2006-10-07 20:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the only thing I can say is that, it's life. Yet I understand you so well... I trusted many people in life. Even started caring about them. It became easy to talk to them... sharing secrets and learning from them. Then one day you wake up and realize that it was all too pretend.
Sometimes, you look around and see that at times it feels like no one really cares.
So I stopped trusting people easily. And yet, even after that, I do and even after all the pain... it hurts more each time. But don't despair... I found someone who'll hold my burdens while I'm strong enough to walk on my own two feet. And I'll always respect them for that. So stay strong and you'll know all too well that someone (you may not even know) cared about you all along.
Stay safe. - Maryam
2006-10-08 01:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by piercing integrity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you make sweeping generalizations based on a few negative experiences, it's called negative sampling bias. The analogy would be that you go through your day having several neutral interactions with people, then one shop clerk (who may just be having a bad day his or herself) is rude to you, and you leave the store saying, "Why is everyone always an a..hole to me?" It sets up a destructive victim mentality that will prevent you from finding true intimacy later in life. Think of all the people who are nice to you and have been true to you, perhaps not in a romantic context, but I'll be there are plenty of the opposite gender who have not tried to hurt you intentionally. I hate to use a cliche, but it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, and ultimately, if you risk romance again, you'll probably get hurt again, but it's still worthwhile. And ultimately, you will find someone who is right for you and will treat you right. Of course, that requires that you treat them right as well.
2006-10-07 20:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by Rico Toasterman JPA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably might be a good time to consider making better choices in friends. Perhaps you are falling for the superficial without learning more about their charatcer first. Sometimes people think a pretty girl + a nice personality = a good person, so they assume she'll be something "good" without first letting the truth slowly unfold.
2006-10-07 20:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not getting unique treatment -- the grade people you're reaching out to are for SELF so basically, so much, that when they see you off your guard being nice to them, they see you as easy and take advantage which is what they are there for. Forget those people and pick acquaintances from a higher grade of folks, givers rather than grabbers, and work together.
2006-10-07 21:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if you didn't care about them, you wouldn't care that they "stabbed you in the back." So bascially, everyone is stabbing you in the back all the time, you only notice it when the people close to you do.
2006-10-07 20:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by Liza128 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Shakespeare said in Julius Caesar "..the fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves,that we are underlings." If the same thing keeps happening to you, you must examine your actions to see why you keep attracting the same kind of people with the same results.
2006-10-07 22:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by nyasasmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you bro. I've been hurt and with rather uneccessary cruelty from the 'fairer' sex too. Why? I can't explain. Maybe its just fear of looking weak in that eternal game of who gets to push the buttons.
2006-10-07 19:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh well. If you want to solve the problem you have to recognize it for what it is. Who's the common denominator in these relationships?
2006-10-07 19:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by water boy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing I can see that you're a whiny little pus*y. Maybe that's it. Man up, dude. A girl wants a man, be one. No crying, or whining, or why me ing.
2006-10-07 20:44:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋