What would you do,or how would you deal with this?Me and my g/f have been together for 3 1/2 years I love her very much but we have some issues.She loves me i know and i know she hasn't run around on me ~YET-LOL~ Anyway she's got it in her head now that being with me isn't natural-say's she don't wanta just leave me-but she don't kiss me or hug me on her own anymore-she feels like the world may be coming to a end soon and she don't wanta' go to hell.We havent been romantic in ohhhh i can't even remember. I don't wanta say the hell with this and go on cause i do love her-but her oldest soon which is 15 keeps telling her things that's in the bible-he don't like the fact that we are together.Do i give up or what? I have been patient with her for awhile now,I don't know what to do!!!!! PS If you can't be nice here and help me -please don't bash me!
2006-10-07 12:06:56 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If she's choosing some make-believe apolocypse over you, then it's time to move on.
In her later years, once the "end times" nonsense is long forgotten, she'll regret losing what she threw away - you.
2006-10-07 12:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Loser...joking. You have a hard decision here. This happens alot with people who have different belief systems. My only advice is to talk to her, and her child. I know it won't help with the bible, but if your belief sytems are the same, or different, learn about the bible stuff. If not, try to figure out if you want to continue punishing yourself for this situation. You might have to leave, which, at first, will seem like hell, but it may better in the end. Love can make us feel good and bad, it is a strange thing. Hopefully you will work it out. If not, don't worry, I'll take you out to the lovcal clubs and we will have some fun. Until then, keep your head up and do what is right fot YOU>
2006-10-07 19:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Gonzo Rat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It kind of seems like you are growing apart hun
Sometimes it's hard to face, I know
Other than, work on your own self esteem, and go out and do things that you might enjoy, without her, with other friends, etc...
the only thing that I can say is this...........you are probably going to "wait it out anyway" so, all the advice in the world is not going to change the way you feel or the way you react to your situation"
you have already decided that you care very much for this person, and that is basically the just of it.
I wish you much good luck
life goes on and we learn to make wiser choices along the way (when needed)
life is a learning experience
peace and take care
2006-10-07 19:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by amber 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get her to a GLBT friendly clergyperson. Cristianity and homosexuality can work. It sounds like someone's been whispering some ignorant, horrible advice in her ear and she's taken what they've said to heart. It's definately time to seek some proffessional support to get that evil little birdy out of her ear and assure her that her divine won't punish her for loving someone. It sounds like the kids aren't happy with the relationship and are making your lives horrible to try to break you two up, and trying one of the lowest tactics. Also, don't give up on her. That's a tough struggle for people. If you care about her, stay by her side and help her through this struggle. She needs an open-minded rock that'll be there for her while she struggles with her sexuality and spirituality.
2006-10-07 22:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have gotten alot of good answers on this question, and here is my opinion.
If she feels like its not natural then it sounds like you need to move on. Even if she still loves you and doesnt want to leave you because you have a long history together, that is not a good reason to stay in a relationship that is making both of ya'll unhappy.
A woman with a child is a tough one, because if she had to choose, chances are she will choose her child. Which is understandable.
However when that child leaves home, he is going to go and live his life the way he sees fit, not the way she wants him to.
If she is willing to let a 15yr old dictate to her what is wrong and right then you need to find someone that will not question herself and will not question her feelings for you.
Good Luck
2006-10-08 01:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by angelajock 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly I have been where you are right now- Believe me there are answers- Look for an MCC church in your area- this is a very open church for Gays and non gays that is non denominational and supportive. Try and meet her son where he is and if he is really worried about her soul- indulge him and help the family find a confirming church that will improve everyones lives... Maybe there is sometyhing missing- and it is possible to be GAY and a Christian I am living proof, GOD don't make trash and he loves you all I hope for you the best!
2006-10-07 21:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by admiredi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My suggestion is to have a "Come to Jesus Meeting" with your girlfriend. Read her your question as posted here and deal with her answer. But, be certain you can handle the worst possible answer before you ask the question.
I hope you don't consider this bashing, frankly I would like to bash the kid for a few minutes though.
Best wishes, I sincerely hope this works out for the best.
2006-10-07 19:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DON'T marry her! Her head is all messed up right now. Just ask her right out if she wants to break up and if she says yes do it. Yes, I know it's hard. But living like this is hard too. How was she in the beginning? And when did this start? About the time her kid started about the bible? And what made HIM such an expert all of a sudden? I wouldn't put to much into trying to talk any sense into the kid. Those religious fanatics know it all and think they are right and that's all there is to it!!!!!!!!
2006-10-07 19:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow, thats pretty messed up that she would let a 15 yr olds insecurity's affect her that much. If I where u, I would say to her, " Honey, I love you, but your not meeting my needs anymore. If you are so worried about going to hell because you are in love with a women, its time for us to go our seperate ways because we both deserve better than this." I understand its hard, but thats not fair to you. If you go your seperate ways, she may see the mistake she is making and want you back. As far as the 15 yr old is concerned, Its not his business who his mom is with and it sound like he is a disrespectful little prick. I could never be with someone who had a child like that, but thats me. Hope you figure it out. Good luck.
2006-10-07 19:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's great that you're so open about it and I think that if she can't deal with it that you may need to give her an ultimatum. Let her decide whether or not she wants to be with you and if she can't decide and she still doesn't kiss you or hug you then you should try to move on because you can't force someone to do something that they're not willing to do themselves.
2006-10-07 19:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Reyloe 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is letting her child lead her And while Jesus did say you had to be as children to enter the kingdom of heaven he did not mean let your children lead you.
She is being a fool and letting her child dictate her life for her. You are better off letting her know this is unacceptable to you.
There is nothing in the bible against homosexuality I suggest you read it and study it thoroughly you will see that the passages the son is reading to her are being taken out of context.
go to this website and read it it should help print it off and give it to your girl friend to give to her son. I hope it helps
2006-10-07 19:33:03 · answer #11 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋