I have an controlling and emotionally abusive husband. He has been harassing me and threatining to take my baby. what do I do?
2006-10-07 11:59:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to the police (regarding the threats) and find a colse friend or family member that you can stay with RIGHT NOW until you decide what you are going to go. You need to get you and your baby away from this jerk now before he starts treating your child how he treats you.
2006-10-07 12:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by oh so blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a lawyer who will give you advice on this. Most will give you one interview and advice for free. Of course if you move for divorce then you pay but at least you will have some advice on how to proceed.
What ever you do....do something. You do not need to put up with this and there may come a day when he will take that baby.
Do not just run. Sooner or later that will catch up with you. Get advice and go from there.
2006-10-07 12:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And where exactly does he think he will take her to? Time for you to quit taking this abuse and move on. The courts will award you custody of your child, barring any charges of child or drug/mental abuse charges, child support, the house and possibly spousal support. He will get your states visitation rights but you can request they be supervised if needbe. You can get a restraining order for your and your childs safety if needbe. Contact your local legal aid assoc if you need help or advice and start moving on past this idiot. Also he cant legally threaten you so document all times he does or anything so youll have it for court. Good luck
2006-10-07 12:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a Game plan:
Find a place to live, get your money and your things and leave.
Do this secretly. So he wont find you. Leave him when he is gone to work or something that has to take him all day.
And When you do go.
Leave him a freaking business card to a psychiatrist...and take a pic of you flipping him off..
2006-10-07 12:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by butterflyangel1013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men do like to have that one thing that holds you there , huh? it is another way to control you! and don't let him get by with it! you need to say this is the way it is , i am leaving. if you wish to TRY an take my child , i will see you in court. but for now i am leaving an the child is going with me! and 9 times out 10 , you won't even hear from him! but if he does , he has to prove you are unfit!
2006-10-07 12:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local united way office. Where I live they are connected to the coalition against domestic abuse. They would find you a safe house and help you get on your feet and get you legal advice and protection. Don't wait!
2006-10-07 12:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sizzle1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he is not yet hitting you, he is still abusive. You need to contact a shelter and leave ASAP. If he is not willing to seek counseling immediately, you will need to make some decisions regarding your future.
2006-10-07 12:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is abusive, then you need to report him. You have a child and your priority is the child. If you can prove abuse, the state will allow him supervise visits only. He probably would have to go to anger management first. Stand strong and seek out a women's shelter if necessary. Please be careful. God bless you.
2006-10-07 12:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by About Midnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave that man it is not healthy for you and it is not healthy for your baby. He is abusing you mentally and later on you are going to regret staying with him. If you really love him and he loves you he should go and seek some help.
2006-10-07 12:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by Karolina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police and run away if he comes back around get a restraining order or get custody of your child then move away from him
2006-10-07 12:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by Dakotah D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋