What would you do if your Girlfriend Didn't want to take your last name when you got married? If your girlfriend said that she wanted to either keep hers or get ur last names hypenated..and even to a different extent...what if your girlfriend wanted you to take her last name...My Friend Mike said that his Girlfriend wants him to take her last name...and I find that insane..what do you think?
2006-10-07 11:54:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I Personally think that its tradition for a woman to take the mans last name..if my girlfriend didn't want to take my last name, I would let her keep hers...but I would never take hers.
2006-10-07 12:01:16 · update #1
I think it is weird (probably because it's uncommon and nontraditional) when a man takes the woman's last name. But I see nothing wrong with a woman either keeping her last name or wanting to amalgamate his with hers. No one says a woman must take her husband's last name. To some, a woman can feel like she is losing part of her identity. Maybe her last name has been around so long and doesn't want to lose it.
I took my husband's last name when I married, but only after months of agony because I really didn't want to at first. Thankfully I had a husband who didn't care if I did or not.
One thing to think of though: I am not sure if a man can just assume a woman's last name -legally- like a woman can assume a husband's. He may have to legally change it to hers. Then if there is a divorce, he would have to legally change it back. Whereas the woman (upon divorce) can assume back her maiden last name because technically she only borrowed her husband's (at least in Canada this is the way it is).
2006-10-07 12:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by bc_grl68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married I didn't want to lose my maiden name, and I did ask for him to take mine. My husband said that he is proud of his last name as I was with my maiden. So I thought about hyphenating it. So when I wrote it down it was extremely long. So after we talked about it I took his.Even though I'm still not used to how my first name sounds with his last name I'm glad I took it. I think they should come to a compromise. It shouldn't matter what name sounds better or or looks better. It all depends on what everyone thinks about the situation.
2006-10-08 12:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright. I am a very happily married woman, but I didn't want to take my hubby's name either. I liked my maiden name. Everyone could spell it and say it. This one, not so easy. I am glad I took it now, because it's easier as a family with children, but I didn't want to.then. I did it because my husband would have been offended, and it wasn't THAT important. I am still too sexist to think he should take her name...
2006-10-07 12:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is insane for him to take her last name. As far as woman taking the man's last name, I know quite a few woman who kept their last name. Mostly, because their future husband has a weird last name. Me personally, I don't believe it matters.
2006-10-07 12:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you create your own identity with your name, so some women feel as if they are being confined by their spouse and have to re-establish themselves with a new name. she should hypenate the name, it's not the 50's anymore and most women have to go through so much to re-establish a persona ... but having him take her name sounds like she's getting frustrated with his answers.
2006-10-07 12:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now why doesnt this surprise me. With the way things are going in todays society, it was just a matter of time before we screw this up too. Its just a matter of time before we destroy everything that was once right and moral, but then people enjoy doing just that til we destroy the planet. Now if there was a really good reason do change something thats been done for generations before us, then by all means let us do it, but this is only some self ego trip that we really dont need. I agree with you
2006-10-07 12:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i too feel it is just the way it should be. i wished my hubby would of taken my name , but didn't dare utter it to him because i felt it to be disrespectful had i ask him. old fashion way of doing it has always worked....
2006-10-07 12:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone cause she has any right to keep, her last name
2006-10-07 11:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares? do you love her for her last name or for her?
2006-10-07 12:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋