I totally love this girl and I'm suspost to stay away from her because her parents totally hate me for being in love with their daughter. We both love each other and the supence is killing me. I can't go a day without wanting to see her or just be with her. The more I go without her the more I want her. I see her all the time at school but everytime I see her I just want to go up to her, kiss her on the lips and tell her that everything is going to be ok because I found a way to fix it all. But life isn't like that. I don't know what to do about the whole thing and I'm always thinking about her. I really don't want anyone saying "Oh well your just obsessed!" I know that I'm really in love with her. When I'm not with her I feel like something is missing. I have never felt like this with anyone else that I've gone out with so I know that this isn't just a normal relationship. Does anyone have any advice to what I should do or have the same thing happen to them to help me with this?
2006-10-07 11:42:48 · 9 answers · asked by Mel Mel 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Screw the parents! Be together! There are options out there if you two want to be togehter, but it won't be easy at all. If you two want the relationship to work, don't get discouraged. Make it happen. I wish you two the best.
I'm trans and my parents wouldn't let me transition. I packed up all my belongings in my car and moved 100 miles away before I even graduated high school. It wasn't easy, but I'm happy now. It is possible to go against the parents wishes and be happy. I'm living proof.
Blessed be )O(
Sarah
2006-10-07 15:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might benefit from seeing this problem as more about her than about you. It sounds like it is this girl, not you, who is vacillating between obedience to her parents, and allegiance to you. She needs to deal with this issue (including other issues such as sexual orientation) with her parents, decide what she wants, and talk it out with them.
On your part, you need to be understanding of her dilemma, and help her craft words that will convince her parents that you're a good thing for her in her life. The last thing you want to do is act obsessed, because this will only scare her (and her parents off even more.) Prove that you can be a stabilizing, loving, and mature influence in her life, if only you'd be given a chance.
Good luck!
2006-10-07 19:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by bouyeboi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should include a little more information. if yall are old enough to do as you please then i would in fact just do that if she felt for me as i felt for her. if not, then i think that maybe you should try to think about something else and let time take its course. we want things so bad that we think of nothing but what we want because we can't have it. when we get it, we don't even want it any more. i not saying this is the case but what other choice do you have if you're choosing or is doing as the parents ask? I hope i helped a little. Good luck
2006-10-07 19:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to wait,to have a real meaningful relationship with her until after she turns 18,and is old enough to be a consenting adult. Until she is 18,if she is not an emancipated minor,then you are in for a rough time of it. If you can spend time with her at school,holding hands,talking ect.(enjoy your time together),and bide your time until she is old enough to do as she pleases (without her parents permission): It is great that you love her,and I hope it will work out for the 2 of you.
2006-10-07 18:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by starfish50 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you? I know love is love no matter how old you are but it is hard to tell you what to do. If you're young you will have to wait until you are both old enough then noone can tell you that you guys can't be together. Her parents sound kinda over-protective.
2006-10-07 18:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she loves you back, the parents shouldn't matter. However, if she's not reciprocating your feelings, don't bother. She should willingly go see you no matter what her parents say because she should be old enough to understand that her parents don't rule over her life; she has to make decisions sooner or later.
2006-10-07 18:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if the parents are in denial about their daughter being gay. You girls might have to keep your love low profile until you both are older and can move in together.
2006-10-07 20:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by Cichlid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw the parents and love each other anyways.........they can never stop your love for each other....just if you can see each other
2006-10-07 18:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
2006-10-07 19:59:59 · answer #9 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋