I was involved in a two year affair with a man, who led me on cheats on his wife, chats on porn sites and continues to keep in touch with ex girlfriends,Yet he claims everything is great in his marrriage .He used me. He tells people how he "does not think think he is with the right woman"yet pretends to everyone else that they are the perfect couple.Now they have a son.I met this man at work(before child) and had deep feelings for him.He says he wants us to be friends and thinks I am obsessed with him. I cared for him and I am hurt deeply .He was good to me ,for the most part and seems to love his wife, she seems to be agood person although naive.I think she should know.What should I do ?I fear he will continue to do this to his wife and other women.I do not trust him enough to be a friend,I am hurt ,depressed and ashamed.
2006-10-07 11:35:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1st off what is wrong with you!!!!You need to go to the bat gave and devise another plan ! The best way to get him back is to leave him along no phone calls,nothing and don't even acknowledge his presence when he is around, if he thinks you are so crazy about him prove him wrong.The best way to back at someone is to make them feel stupid I mean really dumb send yourself flowers if you work with him he will think you've moved on, look your best at all times i mean go out of your way make sure your hair nails and feet look good and dress to kill honey i would even go as far to bump into him with my date i would rent a date someone that looks like he should be on play girl and let that man see you with him! p.s that man didn't do you wrong you did yourself wrong never ever mess with someone who is already taken because there is a Lil thing called karma and that ***** is really mean!
2006-10-07 12:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by cody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well. Maybe he is feeling some of those things for and about you too. If he and you are worth it, you wil try to fix it even if it takes a few decades. If he claims everything is great with his marriage, is he right? Why does he claim that if it isn't? Is it really good? How can you know? People don't use each other if they are roughly the same age. "She can't take you anywhere you don't already know how to go" , etc, TRUE i think. If he thinks you are obsessed with him, why would he think that? Do you harrass him or bother him too much? Ok, hurt , we have to just handle, the best we can, in this life and the next. Ashamed, maybe you deserve it. If he is good and stayed 20 years with a woman, yeah, maybe they are both good people. Mostly , anyway. Be honest with yourself first, then him, then her maybe, If you are hurt, talk to him, maybe he could help you, maybe not. Ask anyway. Nothing to lose I think.
2006-10-07 11:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to move on and see the situation as it really is. Sounds very hard but it's the healthiest way. Revenge doesn't solve anything. It's just a useless way of releasing your anger. It won't change how he really feels or erase his past actions. There are so many single men in this world why bother with the married ones. Seriously, you deserve better and you have to see that. Cut all communication with him and begin the healing process. Good Luck
2006-10-07 11:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by Aidge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is half as bad as you say, believe me, on some level, his wife knows, and is staying in it "for the child."
You could write a note to his wife, to his mother, and to his boss. Make sure it's anonymous and post marked from anywhere but where you live. Add true dirt, probable dirt, and made up dirt. Exaggerated is good too. Contact his ex girlfriends and start a support group.
Or an intervention. With his wife, mother and boss in the room and all his old girlfriends.
That's all I can think of, if only to laugh at. Good luck!
2006-10-07 11:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no ethical way to get revenge. Did you know he was married when you first started dating him? Notihg good can ever come out of a relationship with a married man unless the wife catches him in action. Altho unethical, what I did was put a little bug in the wife's ear when I found out he was cheating on me. I called her and point blank asked for him. I apologized to her for calling her house and she believed me that I didn't know he was married, because of the telephone number. It was no one I could have gotten the number without him giving it to m. At least you had the option in knowing he was married, I didn't.
2006-10-07 12:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a guy that will never be faithful to one woman. You are very lucky that you did not end up with a child by him. Cut all ties with him and consider yourself the winner.
Do not have any more contact with him. This let's just be friends ploy is a way to have access to you when he is horny, but with no attachments. Do not let him use you.
As for revenge, the best revenge is to get on with your life and be happy.
Good luck
2006-10-07 11:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON, GIRL!!, even though I don't know you for what you say ....you look really obsessed with him!! which is not a good thing if you're really not. Believe me when I say "there are a LOT of bast**ds who like to play women" and we are so DUMB that believe them, obviously you knew he was married which makes you look even WORST!! ...now don't try to be Superwoman and defend everyone from this men...which at the end...he played you like a full....but with your knowledge!! sorry , but that is what happened to everyone who gets involve with a married man. so move on, I'm sure you are a good woman, and I hope you have learned something from this....NEVER GET INVOLVE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP...or you and everyone else surrounding the jerk will be hurt!!
2006-10-07 11:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so what you are saying is :
You want revenge on a man that CHEATED on you?
Yet he is married BUT NOT TO YOU?
So you and him are both CHEATERS.
Hmmmm... interesting how some peoples minds work.
The best revenge would be for YOU to GROW UP and also GET A LIFE that preferable doesn't include SOMEONE ELSE'S HUSBAND.
2006-10-07 11:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what, He WILL continue to do this, and she is a fool for tolerating it, You on the other hand need to cut your losses and find yourself a man of your own, Don't worry about revenge. Believe me what goes around comes around. He WILL get his! So forget him, I know easier said than done, I've been there, but now I'm in a GREAT relationship, MUCH healthier for me too! Good Luck!
2006-10-07 11:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by conniechung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might advise that except you artwork for a similar employer as she is at, you place it in the back of you. in case you complication and not purely out for revenge (not which you would be responsible) all you're able to do is write on your erstwhile company and show difficulty and recommend he evaluation any difficulty that would upward push up that must be placed all the way down to her manipulation of the area. different than that there particularly isn't something you're able to do except you have evidence wherein case you are able to likely sue the employer for wrongful dismissal and exhibit her that way.
2016-10-19 00:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by corl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋