My wife has been on myspace for over a year now. She has wanted me to get on it for a while now, so I finally did. We have a "no talking to the opposite sex" rule in our relationship, but she said that it was alright to disregard this rule as long as the conversations don't get out of hand. She has been talking to guys on here for a while. However, when she noticed that I started getting a lot of attention from females on there, she became insanely jealous and demanded that I remove all of the females and stop talking to them. I've constantly told her that I make sure that my conversations are what they should be by me being a married man and have offered to allow her to read all of my messages. I have nothing to hide. It's pretty selfish of her to want me to change.
2006-10-07 11:31:03 · 10 answers · asked by wtf24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah she is wrong. she cant get jealous cuz females want you. i mean she shouldnt trip cuz she talking to other guys. but to tell you my honest opinion i think that both of you should stop going on my space and other websites like that. because all it causes is trouble. i have seen plenty of couples argue and break up from websites like that. it seems like people get addicted and caught up in it. its bad news. try to talk to her and get her to stop. i hope i helped
2006-10-07 11:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by babyface_2400 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this case I'd have to agree with you. You're wife reading this? Okay...what's good for the goose is good for the gander baby. You made the rules. He agreed to follow. The situation didn't go your way and now you change the rules? Bah!
The solution is this...plain and simple. Listening? Good. The rules remain the same as they were set. Conversations get out of hand....squelch it as agreed. Can't abide by it. Get off of MySpace. Both of you. Oh...and none of this opening a secret account lady. Because then, hubby here will have cause to assume that you're up to no good.
Thats it.
2006-10-07 11:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a double standard here. If youre willing to show her yours, then she should show you hers. Its almost impossible to get on here and not talk to someone of the opposite sex. But its not fair for her to request you give up when she is doing the same thing, so with both of you doing the same thing, but with her wanting different rules for you, then youre right, easily. Besides with all the gays and lesbians out there, I think Id rather have you talk to the opposite sex and ones over 18. Tell her to quit being jealous for no reason, until a real reason exists. Good luck
2006-10-07 11:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its weird because I am having the same issues with my husband. I'm a very jealous person and can't figure out how to to get over my jealousies and insecurities.
My husband is stubborn and won't stop talking to his ex on myspace and it makes me so upset so I told him never to talk to her again and he won't promise me this.
I wasn't sure what to do and it makes it worse that he is currently stationed in Kuwait and heading to Iraq in 2 weeks. So our fights are over the phone and we only talk about every other day.
I've decided to go to counseling and see if it helps.
Have you all ever thought about marriage counseling?
We are going to try when he gets back.
You have to be willing to comprimise and we have made the decision if that counseling doesn't work for me then we would both delete our MySpace accounts and try and work things out from there.
Jealousy is a hard thing to get over. Give her time. Try and Talk about it rationally. I'm in the same boat as her so she might get defensive. Give it time
2006-10-07 11:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by armywife92504 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell... Okay, why is she insecure with myspace chatting? Myspace is so damn ghetto, why would she be jealous of that ****. If she trippin that bad then both of you need to be on together or don't be on it at all because it's not like either one of you can't find out if either one of you was on there. Man that is kinda lame we talkin about the internet.. She's wrong for getting jealous and switching up.
2006-10-07 11:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you tell her to remove all the men!If she don't like it then tell her the my space thing is over NOBODY is using it.Seriously the Internet has caused so many problems for couples.If you two have jealousy issues it is best to not talk to anyone on the net!
2006-10-07 11:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should quit myspace. Then go find some fun stuff to do together in the real world!
2006-10-07 11:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
hell yes , it is insane! jealousy makes me so sick! i even started my hubby's 360 and invited girls on there for him. what is conversation? i personally am done with it all , but i never say anything to him about it all. most those girls are 1000 miles away. and if he ever did get with one , i sure hope they can teach him something. lol but you are right about it being totaly insane!
2006-10-07 11:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has been talking about things to guys that she thought you would not like....guilt will make you act strange sometimes.
2006-10-07 11:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to get the hell off the computer and communicate with each other.
2006-10-07 11:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋