My Ex boyfriend is doing his laundry at my house! And then I'm taking him out to a family dinner party. Help me I am trapped!
2006-10-07 11:22:37 · 7 answers · asked by JustLynn 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Actually I would treat a female friend this way. It is just who I am. No reason to slam the door shut when you can ease it closed gently. He is aware that we are just friends and I am "looking".
2006-10-07 12:12:37 · update #1
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2006-10-09 10:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmine S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You trapped yourself. Next time, you'll know better. Today, you have already opened your mouth. Since it will be difficult to deal with the laundry issue, I'd just let him dry it & while that is happening, tell him that you have had second thoughts about taking him to your family dinner party, since he is now your "ex" boyfriend. Tell him you want to be friends (if you do) & let him know that you need your space in order to sort things out & re-group your perceptions of this new relationship between the both of you. Apologize & tell him that you'll bring him a plate back if he is really starving. Someone has to take chage here if you want to really make him your ex. Since this sounds like like a Mother & child relationship, bringing him a plate of food wouldn't be out of character for your role as Mother! You could also feed him while he is folding his laundry & tell him that you won't be taking him to the party. You don't owe him anything other than common decency. Ask yourself this...Would you treat a female friend the same way? Don't take it from a man if you wouldn't take it from a woman.
2006-10-07 19:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see that you are trying to be nice. Next time, tell him you are on the way out and take him to a laundromat. Show him how to work the machine and set him and yourself free. This is clearly just an excuse on his part to keep you involved in his life. Perhaps you want him in your life too?? If it truly is over, you can make it really over without being mean. Just talk to him, explain that this laundry situation is inconvenient and let him go. I am sure you have enough friends that you don't need an ex-boyfriend as one.
2006-10-09 16:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girlfriend, does he bring his own laundry detergent? Are paying the bill for him. If so just set him down before the dinner and say, Darlin it isn't you but it's me and I think I need to just be freinds. I need to exspand my social life and in the end if we are meant to be then we will meet up later and then we will see. Make sure you have a girlfreind with you or a third person and sometimes these situation can get out of hand but g/f do it for you. If you let him use you now just think what he will do later. Just have your mom tell him he can do his laundry there anymore. Or tell your mom to tell him he can't come to the family dinner. Sounds cruel but trust me I have been there myself and i didn't have anyone tell me these things.
2006-10-07 18:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by dgbrsand1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing this to be nice, so what! That's really great that you are such a helpful friend. If you feel like you are being used, then don't allow him to do his laundry at your place anymore.
2006-10-08 03:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soon he will come back through the bathroom window.
Put an immediate stop to characterized violation of rights.....
2006-10-07 18:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not ask for help, you got yourself intro that situation, anyway, you are not saying why this is bad, is weird but...bad?
2006-10-07 18:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by class4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋