my fiance won't stop tickling me. I tell him to stop and he won't. He thinks its funny when I run to go to the bathroom after he stops.
what would you do? I have talked to him about it alot. He says if you want to be with me you know I like to tickle you. HELP!
2006-10-07 10:53:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would tell him that if he really cared for you and wanted to be with you he would respect your feelings and stop the tickling.
2006-10-07 10:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Baccojim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The basic issue here is respect - or lack there of. If you have told him that you do not want to be tickled and he tells you: If you want to be with me you know I like to tickle you." He is really saying that a tickling is a VERY important aspect of his relationship and, as long as you are with him, he will tickle you regardless of whether you approve or not. This is called non-consensual tickling and it shows great disrespect.
I am a very ticklish tickler in San Diego, CA and I ALWAYS keep the feelings of my friends in mind before I have my tickling fun. There are a few lady friends who I would LOVE to share my love of tickling with but they do not with to participate and I will never force it on them because I respect them and I value their friendship and their feelings.
If your fiance places tickling in front of your feelings, concerns and happiness then something is definitely wrong and the relationship will fail.
If, on the other hand, you want to see if you can learn how to enjoy tickling and being tickled, he needs to learn to be gentle and playful and respect your limits. Feel free to email me if you want some advice. I have some experience here.
Good luck and all the best to you!
2006-10-09 20:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you that much, then yes its time you start getting serious and let him know that if he if he doesn't stop the tickling, you will have to end it. Your fiance should learn how to listen and be sensitive to your needs. If you ask him to stop doing something, then by all means he should STOP! If I told my b/f to stop doing something and he kept doing it, I would be frustrated. It's time for you re-evaluate everything and determine if this issue is worth ending the relationship or not.
2006-10-07 18:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your fiance' is very childish. Are you sure that he is ready for marriage? I wouldn't just throw in the towel, as there has got to be something there worth loving, but do tell him in a very direct manner that this is something that you do not care for and if he doesn't respect your wishes then he doesn't respect you and maybe it is time to take a look at this engagement in retrospect. Good Luck!!
2006-10-07 17:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by Al s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, this is a form of abuse. You've asked him to stop, he's says no. Decide now if you really want to be with someone who doesn't care how you feel. Little things lead to big things.
2006-10-07 17:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wolud tell him that you don"t like it, and if he dosen't ,then he dosen't understand english, I would tell him that its not funny anymore, And of that don't work then leave him for a little while he will get it,
good luck vtlady112
2006-10-07 18:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by vtlady112 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a form of abuse. and power, he needs to understand, take him to see a councillor if necessary, do not let him brush this off, as it is the start of more to come
2006-10-07 18:01:21 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Roll over and blow a big one in his face!
2006-10-07 17:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you series , be series if not stop, you stop to see him. One option.
2006-10-07 17:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it. Sit down and tell him it makes you uncomfortable.
2006-10-07 17:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by esboard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋