I don`t want to keep the baby,I am from my opinion to young for it,I am 24....my fiance is 26...we have a very good life...and he wants to keep the baby,because he thinks it will be a boy...this is his dream since we met,to have a little boy....
How do I explain now,that I don`t want a child,that I am not ready for beeing a mother,without hurting his feelings...
only serious answers please.
2006-10-07 10:51:33 · 32 answers · asked by cleopatra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeah,it is really easy to make one feel guily cause that peson doesn`t want a child...
but would you like it,if you knew for sure,that the father of the child can`t take care not even of his dog,and he would let me home,growing up his dream???
2006-10-07 11:16:08 · update #1
would you consider that you are ready to have that child,when your fiance thinks about it like an accesory?like buying a new car,after you get bored you let it in the garaje and take another one.he isn`t responsable...and a child is not something you buy in the supermarket,and when you are sick of it,you can put it in a corner and look after it when you dust.
2006-10-07 11:18:56 · update #2
well,if you don`t want the baby,you might later regret it,but this will be only your problem...
if it was your man`s dream to have a little boy,with you,then you will break his heart in any way you will say it...
but keeping a baby,that you don`t want is wrong aswell.cause you will suffer ,and you will make the child responsable for this...
you should tell your fiance,that you are not prepaired for a child,tell him what a child means,cause then it will be over with outgoing and having fun every day,you both will have to get involved in growing him up,and you both will have to be more responsable.
explain him ,what your feelings are,explain him,that you aren`t happy about it.if he loves you he will understand it.
good luck.
2006-10-07 11:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by donatella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't abort the baby. If you are able to explain to him that you don't feel ready to be a mother and if you are being honest with yourself then you may be doing the right thing BUT there are many people out there who seriously desire children and would adopt the baby at birth. I would if I was close enough to you. I'm dead serious. Every baby deserves a chance. You would be doing the responsible thing by carrying the child to term and then putting it up for adoption over having an abortion or keeping the child and regretting it or neglecting/despising it for "ruining" your life. You get the picture.
2006-10-07 10:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want a serious answer? Grow up! -You are no serious at all. Even if he goes for it because he loves you. How can you go with this for the rest of your life? So, you will lie to your "Wanted" future children that you got rid of their older brother/sister because you were not ready to have a baby?
You should have been more careful for not getting pregnant in the first place.
My advice, you are not ready for anything, so get rid of the baby, tell your fiance that you two are not for each other, and go on with your own separate lives. If you two married, I don't think it will last...
2006-10-07 11:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Beto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby up your do damn selfish and immature to have kids your old enough but your a little kid mentally. To bad your whole generation is like that. If you think your ready to spread your legs and have sex then you should be ready for the consequences of that. Didn't you study the failure rates of bc? I knew and I had a two sons one the condom broke and the other the pill failed. I stepped up to my responsibility and I love both of them and you could not pay me to give them away Ian and Tristan are two unique individuals and although I didn't plan them that is the way life goes sometimes. It's what you do with it that shows who you are and what your really made of. Is life really about all that stuff? When you get all that stuff then what? There is more to life than this. You need to learn selflessness.
2006-10-07 10:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your body and life. If you feel that you are not ready, then you're not ready. Don't let him make you feel guilty for not wanting the baby. I hope you aren't too far along, because you need to make a discussion soon. Will he break off with you if you don't keep the baby? All so there is no guarantee that the child is a boy, or do you know? Only you know what is best for yourself, which I believe you already know the answer. Please follow your heart,not his. God bless you.
2006-10-07 10:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by GERRI B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been using birth control if you didn't want to get pregnant.
If you do not want to have the baby and you are still early along in the pregnancy, you may want to consider abortion. Having a child is not like buying a pair of shoes .....you cannot return the child if you realize being a parent is too difficult.
Be smart in the future and use protection!
2006-10-07 10:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by ☺ . CIEL . ☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 24 and can make your own decisions, but this is involving a human life and the father wants to be a father. Before you make any decision that you can not change talk to a counselor about your options.... there are so many loving couples out there that are unable to have children would be able to offer the child a loving home.... please look at all your choices wisely
2006-10-07 10:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, only you can answer that question, I will tell you though, I was 22 when I had my son, and I felt at the time I was too young and wasn't ready to be a mother. BUt HONESTLY having my son was the BEST thing I have ever done...He is my GIFT from GOD and I wouldn't trade him for ANYTHING in the world! Think hard before you do something you'll regret....
2006-10-07 10:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by conniechung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well U knew from the start that he wanted children so if U don't wanna hurt his feelings tell him how U feel about your situation do the right thing end it with him.Either have the kid & give it to him & forget U ever gave birth or do the right thing & be the kids mother there is no other way.Not unless your having an Abortion
Good Luck
2006-10-07 10:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you don't want the baby. but you also need to think about his feeling and how it may break you to up. I know it's your body and be that your body you should be able to make that choice. You are not to young to have a baby. And by have this baby you could make you and your fiance closer. Really there is no right or wrong answer to this it is up to you too.but think about what might happien after your choice
2006-10-07 11:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋